never gona work if i can help it!

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I have had a crappy life, it seems that sence i was born i had hard times. i never had many friends and when i did they abandon me as soon as they saw i was weird. I hate life! i wont work for the man, i did enough of that in school. I'm proud to say i made it through 12th grade, what with my abusive family. and not to mention the awful bulling i went through all of my school years. i did work once it was way to stressful for me . i hate my life, and im gona try and find as much happyness in this life as i can. i still have to live at hoe with my abusive family but I'm tired of making excuses for them, there the reason my life is crap, ill never get better because of them. But at least i have a wonderfull boy friend that loves me dearly . sorry for the rant but I'm stressed , sleep deprived , and needed to vent.

Well, your never going to eat then either.

good maby that might solve of my problems in one go then.

I don't consider my job to be 'work.'

If you find a job you enjoy, you'll never actually have to 'work'.

I'm sorry you've had a bad time.

Here's an article I wrote about bullying. I hope this can help you come to terms with what you've been through.
http://www.smelena.com/article_bullying.php

Helen

P.S. Don't look too closely at my website. I only started it a couple of weeks ago and it's a bit of a mess!

thank you for the caring advice , i normally never get a kind response to ranting. so thank you very very much. i have had so much unkindness my whole life. i would like to say its better now I'm done with school , but its not. my home isent safe. i don't get physically abused anymore but the mental abuse goes on, i want out, but i tried working before and my family intentionally held me back. i don't know a way out at the moment , but I'm on disability and I'm hoping they pay for housing so i can get away from the abuse . they don't know about the abuse but i don't know how to tell them and i don't know if they would tell my parents.

Since you're done with 12th grade, I'm assuming that you're 18 years old. If that's the case, I'm wondering if you have new rights as an adult -- you may be able to tell about the abuse, and not have that information made known to your family. Possibly, that information may actually HELP you get housing and get away. I don't know.

I would do anything to get away from the abuse -- I would think that the stress of a job would be better than dealing with a family that treats me badly. Maybe you just haven't found the type of job that you can enjoy? I know that my son doesn't like/pay attention to school that much, but when it's time to go to his acting classes he's all there, paying attention more than he normally does. As Smelena said, once you find a job that you actually ENJOY, you may not feel like it's work.

I sincerely hope that you can get out of this situation at home -- and I'm happy for you that you have a nice boyfriend. That must really help.

Kris

I don't work either. I had one job that lasted for 3 months and that was it. That's all it took for me to realise that I'd rather be dead than have to slog through life spending 40 hours a week doing things that I HATE and then spend the remaining time physically and mentally exhausted because of it. I'm not living a life that I hate for anyone, not even if the world depended on it. I don't owe anyone anything, I don't have obligations to society, I didn't choose to be here and I'm not going to do things the way other people want me to. At the moment I get my money from the government and I've got plenty of savings now because I spend very little, but if they ever stop giving me that then I guess I'll just have to destroy myself because I'm not becoming a slave to a system that I never signed up for, a system that works against me at every step. I was brought into this world and given no options, I was told I had to go to school, I was told I had to work and no one ever offered another way through. I put up with it for 17 years of my life, but no more. I own my life, I'll choose where it goes and if I can't then I'm taking it away, because I'm not letting other people control it.

i only work for one year during 1995-1996 for an organisation and then they told me full time work was not done for me , so they know what i know about my work, my mom knows that i shall not and cant go to work because of my social issues (i chat in here but that isnt considered been social, social with other 'real' people when you meet them on the workfloor is what is really stressing for me) and also about my motoric /handling stuff issues and my problems with my health. People have to take me for what i am and what i have. That doesnt understand the employment office who are trying to get people with disability to give a work here (in my country).But they dont care about my real problems and my real motivations , for them i am just lazy...

In some places you don't get government money. You're very fortunate. People who work hard are supporting you and that is not right. Aspies are able to work and you're making excuses to avoid work. I'm an aspie and work hard to support myself. I hate the feeling that some of my money is trickling down to you to support your lifestyle.

Frankly if you can find a job that you enjoy (and if you tell me there is nothing out there that you could enjoy, I'll call you a liar ) then it it never feels like a job. Even if it isn't 40 hours a week. Plus, the benefits you get from working (personal satisfaction, and. well. money) get you away from most of your problems.

Oh so shoot me, I'm saying money gets you away from problems. Fine it makes more too, but lets say I want to be left alone -- money can do that for me. Let's say I want to buy a social life -- well s**t, can't do that one, but it can buy me socialite juice (booze )

Quite the generalisation, not ALL aspies are able to work. You don't know a thing about me, you don't know if I'm capable of work or not and you don't know if I'm making excuses or if I have valid reasons for not working. You're just pissed because you're wasting hours of your time each and every day just so you can scrape together enough pennies to feed yourself.



I'm glad to hear it. Made my day in fact.

I consider benefit cheats scum of the planet, and i suspect you are one of them. You were once able to work for 3 months and your childish excuse for not wanting to work anymore is that that experience sucked - well, it sucks for most people you insolent leech yet we still do it. Nobody 'signed up to the system' you selfish turd. I hope the government does one day cut your cashflow, end your comfy lifestyle, and you do "destroy yourself" - you'll be doing the world a favour.

NUTLOG I totally agree with you! i am on disability too . I have problems and I'm not cheating the system, I'm sorry you are so upset that you would even think about killing yourself over it. I have pondered that thought as well.. There is always the worry of them cutting the money off. But the truth is even if i would be on the street .I still would not work because its not something i believe in for one ,and two i really couldn't handle it. i want to apologize to you for the other's remarks , they have no right at all to judge you by one post. I see where you are coming from on the issue of not having a choice weather or not to work. the problem is most people don't see we should have a choice . the system we are in is a man made system. people were not meant to spend all of there days working in factories and warehouses, this is a system of control. deep down everyone of us knows that, the problem is no one knows how to brake the cycle . back in the olden days in england people didn't work all day long, they had a garden made there own cloths and were much more happy. and one day someone made an invention to mass produce things , now this was fought against by so many of the people living in the small towns and villages they had to build castles around the places to keep the villagers from burning it down. that was the start of there first so called industrial revolution most people don't know that , but that was what started all of this, over years and years people got used to the convenience of it all now they have to work so hard to by the stuff, but you work so hard, make so little money and the few people control in it all make billions. its a big fat system of control

Well the problem here appears to be very large actually because we are talking about perception and unfortunately things already got a tad warm before so I don't really think this subject is something very open to discussion.

I mean I read the replies and I feel capable of arguing every point from every direction and that just leads to wasting time and irritating people.

I don't understand the purpose of this post.

Firstly, I'm not a benefit cheat, I didn't lie on any of the forms I filled in and I met all the criteria for the benefits I'm now receiving. If you've got a problem with that then blame the systems that are in place, poopypants.
Secondly, you don't actually present an arguement for why you work, you just keep repeating that everyone does it and because of that, it somehow justifies it. Specious reasoning to say the least. If you're content with wasting your life away at work, doing something that 'sucks' then be my guest, I'll just sit here and spend your hard earned money that you've payed in taxes and buy myself all the luxuries I don't deserve. You're right, I am scum, I am selfish.
It's selfish for me not to live my life the way other people want me to? It's selfish not to live a life for others? Sure, but I don't care. I'm aware that nobody signed up to the system, what I'm saying is that nobody gave me, or indeed anyone a choice when they came into this world. By your reasoning, I should just put up with it, buckle down and work my arse off for the good of society and for the good of humankind in general. What you don't seem to notice is that I don't care or identify with society and other people, I couldn't care less if my house is the only one left standing tomorrow, the rest wiped out by some horrific global thermonuclear war. As long as I get what I want, I'm content. That's childish you think? Nah, that's just how my mind works, not my choice, not anybody's choice, it's the way it is. The ONLY possible outcome of the unique structure of my mind coupled with my specific circumstances and past experiences. Not childish, but...inevitable...



Well it's your lucky day Gambit, guess what? They will! They'll cut them off the day I die. That'll probably be in another 70 years, but hey, you seem like a patient guy and I'm sure you'll have lots of fun whining about the injustice in the mean time.

Precisely. For me, this goes beyond, "I don't wanna." This society insults the very things I stand for. Not things I choose to stand for, I can't choose what I believe. When someone is forced to continually perform actions that they are not willing to do, it's not going to end well and I had been forced for long enough. Some people may not be aware that they are being pushed all the damn time, but I am and I won't put up with it.



No need for apologies at all, not from you, not from anyone. Free speech is very important to me, Gambit is a complete arse, but I'd still defend his right to say what he feels.



Yep, and I despise it. Which makes it very difficult to be a part of. So instead of choosing to be a part, I chose to be apart and now I'm much happier.