A bunch of girls.

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I was wondering if I should try to talk to several women during the same time period.
There is more than one girl I have a crush for and want to talk to them (and are sending signals that they want me to talk to them like standing next to me alone and looking at me) but was wondering if I should try that b/c it is pretty hard just trying to deal with one. Thing is I've been told to go after a few at once so that one would work out, I have at least two that I have spoken to and plan to keep talking to but there are always more I want to talk to and I'm not dating anyone so should I try to get to know many at once or what?

Until you actually start going out with one, you can talk to as many as you like. However, sooner or later, you're going to have to take sides...

The more options you have the better.
It's simple game theory; known as a dominating strategy.

Talking to as many people as possible never hurts. You're not being unfaithful if you''re not in a relationship.

That's the point I was trying to make...

Also, if more than one of them is attracted to you, you can have women competing over you... I've had that happen to me before in high school, where women were literally fighting over me (two of them playing tug of war with me as the rope at one point). It was kind of fun, but I never got into it because I knew they were using me for my brainiac status...

Jealousy affects women just as much as it does men, and if you are in a situation like that, you can use it to your advantage... just because we're aspies and they're NT's doesn't mean we still can't employ NT psychological warfare against them...

^^ I like how you think.

Unfortunately, it's not going to last... I'm just on a good note this week because Easter is when everyone my age comes back for a day... (christmas is also this way too...)

^^ Haha, guys- look I'll admit the jealousy thing can work to a certain extent...but DON'T push it. If a girl thinks you are interested in someone else, she is also more likely to write you off and look for other options. ("Oh, I thought maybe he liked me, but I guess I was mistaken...") Especially as she gets older and starts to think of potentially partnering with someone, rather than looking for a prom date.

That being said, sure talk to as many as you like. But if it gets flirtatious, try and keep these dialogues separate until you can pursue one exclusively.

The OP was 21, that's what I was basing my argument off of in the first place. If he was 30+ I would have provided a different argument...

I still am 21. Also I've found that when I speak to more than one girl in a flirty manner I can't allow them to meet. EVER! Last time that happened they started talking to each other about me it didn't ruin our relationships I that did later but they still found out I flirted with them both and they reacted differently with one backing off until I dropped the other they only wanted me on their own not in competition which is kinda weird and it's like I'm an item to be had and shared it made it to confusing that one liked me then the other but they didn't like me enough to fight they wanted to take turns....