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03 Apr 2008, 7:58 am

does anybody have a way to do chore that does not feel overwhelming? Just do it never seems to work for me, respons es like that drive me crazy.



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03 Apr 2008, 8:19 am

matsuiny2004 wrote:
does anybody have a way to do chore that does not feel overwhelming? Just do it never seems to work for me, respons es like that drive me crazy.

i usually turn it into a game....

like, how many plates can i clean in 5 minutes...

or how many weeds i can pull up without breaking the roots...

etc..

keep a highscore, make it fun...


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03 Apr 2008, 8:33 am

I know what you mean. First, I pile everything on one side of the kitchen sink, so the other side is clear. Then I do the dishes that are least dirty, as many as I can easily fit onto the clear space. Then I dry them and put them into the kitchen cupboard. Then I take the next dirtier dishes, again as many as will easily fit onto the clear space. Dry and put away. By now there will be leftovers/garbage that you have to decide what to do with (unless you have one of those garbage grinders that I've only heard rumours about) - away with them, into the recycle bin, down the toilet, wherever. While doing the last load of dishes, soak the saucepan and frying pans. Finally, wash the pans and put them out to dry. Finished!



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03 Apr 2008, 9:02 am

I use radio, or headphones to distract myself from the chore while I am doing it. Boring chores need it the most. I have even set up a mirror so I could watch TV while doing chores.


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03 Apr 2008, 9:32 am

Thanks for the advice, but besides dishes what are the logical reasons for doing them? Why do people do these things?

do people feel like this changes you as a person?



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03 Apr 2008, 9:37 am

matsuiny2004 wrote:
Thanks for the advice, but besides dishes what are the logical reasons for doing them? Why do people do these things?

do people feel like this changes you as a person?


to do your communal or personal duty to keep to a certain standard or hygene and tidyness...

you will find most chores, although boring, do have a perpose...

the real question people wonder is... why do I have to be the one to do it?


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03 Apr 2008, 10:04 am

How do you remeber to do them?



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03 Apr 2008, 10:06 am

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How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


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03 Apr 2008, 10:08 am

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matsuiny2004 wrote:
How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


I tend to ignore them anyway :D . I feel overwhelmed by them. How can I cope with being overwhelmed? I think I have a fear my life will be consumed by these chores too.



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03 Apr 2008, 10:10 am

matsuiny2004 wrote:
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matsuiny2004 wrote:
How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


I tend to ignore them anyway :D . I feel overwhelmed by them. How can I cope with being overwhelmed? I think I have a fear my life will be consumed by these chores too.


thats why people get together and have Children :D so they got someone to do it for them :lol:

solution... find someone, date them, marry them, sleep with 'em, have kids, and wait till they can walk :twisted:


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03 Apr 2008, 10:16 am

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matsuiny2004 wrote:
Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


I tend to ignore them anyway :D . I feel overwhelmed by them. How can I cope with being overwhelmed? I think I have a fear my life will be consumed by these chores too.


thats why people get together and have Children :D so they got someone to do it for them :lol:

solution... find someone, date them, marry them, sleep with 'em, have kids, and wait till they can walk :twisted:


I do not want chores to distract me from what I really want to do. I feel like it will take away all the space in my brain. Is that jsut from my dfficulty adapting to these chores?



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03 Apr 2008, 10:20 am

matsuiny2004 wrote:
Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


I tend to ignore them anyway :D . I feel overwhelmed by them. How can I cope with being overwhelmed? I think I have a fear my life will be consumed by these chores too.


thats why people get together and have Children :D so they got someone to do it for them :lol:

solution... find someone, date them, marry them, sleep with 'em, have kids, and wait till they can walk :twisted:


I do not want chores to distract me from what I really want to do. I feel like it will take away all the space in my brain. Is that jsut from my dfficulty adapting to these chores?


look at it this way.... SOMEONE needs to do them.... and it may as well be shared among everyone, after all... do you think your the only person it would distract from what they really want to do?

no-body likes chores ('cept maybe people with OCD...)


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03 Apr 2008, 10:27 am

Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
look at it this way.... SOMEONE needs to do them.... and it may as well be shared among everyone, after all... do you think your the only person it would distract from what they really want to do?

no-body likes chores ('cept maybe people with OCD...)

Am I the only one here who likes doing the dishes? I like cleaning, too.



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03 Apr 2008, 10:28 am

Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
Aspie_for_the_Lord wrote:
matsuiny2004 wrote:
How do you remeber to do them?


usually a pile of plates in the sink when im going to get a cup of tea is a sign...

a lack or cutlery, plates and cups etc... is also a positive sign... but easily confused with being burgled :P


I tend to ignore them anyway :D . I feel overwhelmed by them. How can I cope with being overwhelmed? I think I have a fear my life will be consumed by these chores too.


thats why people get together and have Children :D so they got someone to do it for them :lol:

solution... find someone, date them, marry them, sleep with 'em, have kids, and wait till they can walk :twisted:


I do not want chores to distract me from what I really want to do. I feel like it will take away all the space in my brain. Is that jsut from my dfficulty adapting to these chores?


look at it this way.... SOMEONE needs to do them.... and it may as well be shared among everyone, after all... do you think your the only person it would distract from what they really want to do?

no-body likes chores ('cept maybe people with OCD...)


Do you feel that it interferes with your obsessions/interests?. What I mean by interfere is take away as in a loss.



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03 Apr 2008, 10:37 am

What I mean is will I lose my obssession by doing the dishes



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03 Apr 2008, 11:30 am

matsuiny2004 wrote:
What I mean is will I lose my obssession by doing the dishes


what is your obsession?


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