i donno whats goin on with me! can anyone help???

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i have a wee bit of a problem on my hands. i am sometimes sexaly atracted to girls and sometimes really hot guys... and im a guy

does anyone know what i should do in figurin out my sexual prefrence
and how do i get involved in a relationship

It isn't bad being bi. Well, unless you got one of those kind of parents.

You may not necessarily be bi or gay yet. Sometimes people question their sexuality. It's up to you which preference you end up with.

As for your other question, I'd actually like the answer myself.

i acually do have one of those kinds of parents, my dad is well outspoken when it comes to gays and bi's

I used to be confused by being attracted to people of both genders. I thought it might be just a phase and I'd eventually be either gay or straight. Instead, I continued to be attracted to people of both genders. Experience confirmed that I was indeed bisexual. Time and experience tend to bring clarity to these things. By the time you're certain of your sexual orientation, you may have had time to decide how to deal with your family.

i hope so even though im kinda having trouble waitin...hopefully the answer will come soon

You're totally BI!

You're one of the lucky ones because you got the best of both worlds.

BI-Sexual it is!

My advice is to download some gay pornography with only guys, and then some pornography with only women. See which one turns you on. If they both turn you on, that means your BI. Check out the gay scene in your community. Chances are there are some wild gay clubs, and party it up.

Don't worry. Mine are the same.

That implies he wants the social side to it too. For many bisexual men, diving into the gay scene is too prohibiting of women. A better situation needs to be sought, where sexuality is even more loose. I found that raves and concerts are more of a free-wheeling zone where it is comfortably liberal for both sides of the game.

i dont think raves are best for me since i have a bad time with crowds... and have severe anxiety which makes me have cheast pains in those sorta situations

I haven't determined yet whether I'm straight or bi, but I'm basically just not worried about. I'll just do what I want to do and see where I end up. I'll "come out" if it becomes an issue, like if I end up going out with a dude someday.

do labels matter?

I don't care what I am (or what you are for that matter)

I have has sex all 4 possible ways (male-male, male-female, female-male and female-female) mostly it has been fun and when it was not it was not because of the gender of my partner.

Sex is to be enjoyed however and with whoever you can enjoy it with

Sounds like bi-sexual with gay tendencies?
I don't really know your story but you shouldn't be ashamed of who you're attracted to. I know it must be tough b/c of some of the ignorance of small minded ppl. Doesn't sound like you're confused, seems like you have an attraction. Maybe labeling yourself isn't something you should stick with? I think with ppl sexuality is more complicated than that.

As for the relationship thing, I think that's a tough one since a lot of us have that problem. If you think someone has a crush on you but you're not sure, just hint at it by asking how they feel about you. I think better relationships should begin with some friendships of any gender rather than going after one cold turkey. But I also wouldn't let lack of relationships define you as a person, I think that you need accept yourself first before diving off so to speak.

i try not to make it a big deal but sometimes it really bothers me not knowing that and gettin aroused when i sometimes dont expect it.

It means that you are an intelligent human being, and as such you will find yourself confused by a lot of things in the world.

My advice: Stop trying to put yourself in a box, you will drop into one in due time.

go with how you feel for whoever you want to feel it...

If you hit it off with a hot guy you're attracted to, go for it.
If you hit if off with a hot gal you're attracted to, go for it.


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