justy7cc wrote:
I would like to be told in clear, uncondescending, unemotional language why I cannot get asked on a simple date. I actually believe this is an answerable question.
I am 5'4" and my weight varies between 115 and 120 pounds. I have voluptuous amounts of curly reddish brown hair which is natural. I own my own business, am financially secure, was a straight A student at an Ivy League school and grad school. I do not smoke and have no previous or current drug habits. I drink occasionally. I am politically moderate to right. I keep up on current events. I am a former ballerina. I like movies and read a lot of books. I have run 7 marathons successfully.
Lastly, I am considered very nice looking and have good taste in clothes. I don't swear or tic.
Is the reason I can't get a date my aspergers? If so, should I just give up? I'm pretty much considering this. I just turned 40 and today, buying a bottle of wine to bring for a (male, of course) friend's birthday, was asked for MY ID. I apparently pass for under 21 or near it. The woman who asked for my ID's mouth dropped open (WIDE) when she saw 1968 on my license.
I ask men out. They become my buddies. Forever. I ask why - they say, you aren't vulnerable,psycho, needy, you don't get drunk and fart, you don't have bad breath or bo, I never know when you have your period - you are so rock steady! (quote) If I want a girlfriend, she must be needy and serve me, but you are my equal, you aren't for screwing n' marrying!
By such descriptions girlfriends/wives aren't me. They sound rather pathetic...and odorous too.
Advice? What does an "aspergers person" do if she wants a date? I like men only...Why do all of these gold digger chicks get dates? Their aims are not good, I know.
Serious replies only, please. I don't always get jokes...they sort of fly by me. Should I just pretend to laugh when the guy tells a joke? Again, respectful advice please. This is all getting rather old, and so am I. Thanks, J
Having been a woman with your attributes back when I wanted a boyfriend, I recognize the symptoms. Men are intimidated by successful women. Yeah, uh huh. no kidding.
One guy told me one time why did I need him? I was educated, successful, independent - in short he thought I had
become the man I had wanted to have a relationship, to marry.
I had made no place for someone in my life and there was no place for men to ''be'' so they rolled off like raindrops down a window pane.
and I never knew it.
Merle