What are some of the defence mechanisms you've come up with?

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To deal with whatever negative issues being an aspie has brought up?

Personally, I think I've convinced myself I enjoy being weird. I enjoy that i'm not like all the other people and that (hopefully) my friends like me because I'm unique. It works because they too are all weird in their own ways.

I'm still learning how to defend myself from a banana...

Actually, I go into a sort of 'stealth' mode; no eye contact, stay out of people's 'personal space', etc.

I like being weird too, my first line of defense is my fluro-coloured hair - no one expect the bright-coloured bouncing distracted-looking girl to be normal, and I have a large store of hair-colour related conversation to draw on for smalltalk.

I try to have a really big ego. I think things like 'I am awesome, so things will work out, even if I'm scared and overwhelmed. Of course the teacher will agree to let me do this, I'm a good and attentive student. I know I'm trying harder then everyone else, so of course I'm going to get a good mark.'

It's actually scary how often this works. The key is that I really have to believe it, not just think it. I have to be willing to take steps to prove it too.

i collect things to make my loneliness go away

I tend to be very critical of myself, so that I'll be less devastated when other people criticize me.

Hmm... my biggest one is judging everyone else so that I can feel superior and like their opinions don't matter so that I can just write them off. Then there are things like always having my headphones on so I don't have to talk to anyone. With my friends, girlfriend, etc. though, I'm very open and don't really have defense mechanisms. Intimacy just won't work if you're building up a wall around yourself.

Knowledge. Knowing is half the battle. Knowledge is power. Know thy enemy. Etcetera.
Also, I identify my weaknesses, and work on them.

dont group when playing wow , that is more way to bypass problems with people, if you dont meet them , you dont face them and you dont get help so would they care

often i grouped and then they tell me how slow i am and when i say i am aspie they drop me out of the group so that is why i never guild or group anymore

maybe in warhammer online with my old online friends

Trust no one

Silence works.

I pretend for decades that im not interested in having a gf. Means i get no sympathy.

My biggest defense against my strangeness was arrogance. I treated people who were mean to me like I was far superior to them. I also learned early on, at about thirteen, not only to realize that I'm never going to be "normal" but also to enjoy my differences.

It's still a big shock to my system to think that I'm the one who's strange instead of thinking everyone else is strange.