Dealing with feelings

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I've spent a great deal of time observing the threads about relationship problems. From personal experience my teens were hell, if I 'fell in love' it was all consuming and the poor recipient never knew what had hit him. That love would be intense for all of a week until they wanted to hug me or get close and then I'd instantly reject them, falling in love with the next dream boat.

In my late teens I forgot the opposite sex altogether and met my Husband at my 21st birthday party he was in the Royal Air Force with my Brother and was unlike anyone I'd met before, by 21 my emotions had settled down a bit. They have remained an enigma throughout my life but I will never forget the stress of being a teen.

I've been married to my NT Husband for seventeen years but still fall desperately in love on a whim, of course it's all in my head and I would never cheat on my marriage, but I'm trying to point out that those feelings have stayed with me. Emotions are like a roller coaster that never seems to stop and for me personally one of the hardest aspects of my AS.

Debs

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There's always one - it just happens to be me

I seem to be getting worse with this as I get older.

When I was in high school I had no interest in boys (or girls for that matter, but I didn't know i was bi back then). In the last year I sort of started to develop a little bit of interest but I was still quite take it or leave it when I liked someone (it sounds weird doesn't it and it seems weird to me now). Then I fell for this girl and i've just got worse falling harder ever since as I get older.

I'm presently completely obcessed with this guy. I hope it doesn't get any worse.
The only good point (well i don't know if it's a good point) is I tend to stick with liking the same person instead of randomly jumping from crush to crush.

A lot of the time I just wish I wasn't attracted to anyone,
But no I had to be bi, which is like double trouble.

Well, on one hand I'm glad to see I'm not the only person like that. On the other, it's kind of disapointing to see that this kind of obsession is so strong. I have been crazy for this one girl for about 4 years now. But the problems is I haven't seen her in almost 3. Back when I was going to highschool with her I didn't know how to deal with those kind of emotions. Now I think I could handle it if I saw her again. Unfortunatly I haven't seen her again and it's sort of become this unresolved issue that just keeps bugging me. Oh well, I guess it's just another one of those things we have to learn to deal with.

i seldom feel any emotion very deeply. i've never really fell in actual love, and i'm fairly sure anything i do feel is probably just what i like to call, "stupid teen" stuff. i passionately want to not be like those "other people". (you know, the typical high school kid)
i'm also annoyed about how in the teen years you get attracted to the opposite sex, and by that i mostly mean, the opposite sex's body. thus clouding any actual clear thought. the thought of getting a girlfriend for this reason does not appeal to my logical mind at all. it seems utterly pointless. it makes me wonder how some lucky people meet when they're like 15 and later marry and live happily till they're 102. meh.