Do Aspie women prefer Aspie or NT men?

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I figure the NT's generally have more charm over them than the Aspies do.

Neh...
I likes more AS-ish....men....
I have nothing in common with the more NT sorts...they drive me crazy....are horribly frustrating we have nothing in common....

ish meaning having things in common but not necc diagnosed.

Based on what I've seen, I like the AS ones better. Social niceties and "charm" can go to hell. (It's kind of hard to be taken in by charm when you have an impairment in reading body language and understanding social situations...)

I have no idea. I've never really met an out of the closet aspie or NT . I don't know what interest I'd have for an aspie compared to an NT. I mean it's as if these threads make them out to be two different species. Obviously NTs are going to be the experts when it comes to the etiquette of "proper" social skills.

I think it's fair to say that a lot of us aspies have a hard time as it is when it comes to dealing with the opposite/and or same gender (whatever floats your boat so to speak) in terms of compatibility and relationships.

I dont know eithier Ive never meet an aspie men. I did know an aspie girl and she was beautiful but it was boring with her going on about Robo Cop and Dr Who all the time.

I had a boyfriend once with ADHD and we got on like a house on fire (literally) Ive still got a stab wound scar were he knifed me (f*****g arshole)

I like men who can be themselves. I don't care if they are NT or Aspie. But then, I've been with the same mate for eight-ish years now. He has his obsessions and I have mine. They overlap a bit, which helps.

I think the important thing in a relationship is that you have common interests *and* separate ones. And that you can respect the separate interests of one another.

well the last I saw him he said he meet someone on the net and was going over America somewhere to meet her.
I doubt he is still with her so... maybe

personally, someone that I'll call a Shadow Aspie or an Aspie is what I need. I have been in relationships with NT, DID NOT WORK AT ALL. they cant understand me at all. Oh and now with my boys (one AS one NT) Im even more extra careful to make sure that this fictional HE would be able to deal with my aspie son as well.

By shadow aspie, I mean someone with aspie traits, but still could not get a dx of aspie as more NT than aspie.

I'm say that a guy on the same or similar level as ourselves is a good enough match but while saying that, in my situation both me and my boyfriend have a similar level or social knowledge and we have a bit of knowing what the other doesn't.

His social ability is a bit better than mine and he's able to make and keep friends better. I'm better at calming arguments (when calm myself of course).

I've heard others say that NT is better because you can hide behind them in stressful social situations but in my view it all comes down to trust and love. If there is no trust and love, what's there?

I would imagine that Aspie women who's condition is not Severe, who Have a sex drive/sexual interest in men, and who arent bad looking would be FAR more likely to meet and encounter NT men and to be approached by them. I think that the few aspie women out there IRL are snatched up by NT men who know how to manipulate these women and cater to their needs. I think most aspie men usually just dont run into women who are or would be interested in them. Thats the way its been in My life .

I don't buy into these theories anymore.