Do you talk a lot? Do you talk only little?

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I talk a lot. Unless I'm overwhelmed or have other such trouble.

I just start talking while over people talk, I comment on everything said and around me.

I know I should not interrupt, but I don't know how to stop. Argh. I today interrupted a lady all the time because she kept on non-stop talking. She kept talking when I interrupted her. Seriously, that's worse than me.

I at least request a response. I can't talk to people who only ever say 'I don't know.' or 'I see.' and who don't express themselves in some way, because they're too shy, extremely private etc. But who insist on following me around.

If conversations are dominated by other people, I have no idea what to say. I'm bored out of mind. Really bored. I can't believe others want to join in. Even if they talk about something interesting, the conversation takes a direction I disagree with or they talk about the very aspect I find to be extremely boring. Or they talk too slowly. If I try to join it doesn't work.

I usually say nothing then and just talk in my head (mock-imitating the people because it amuses me greatly) or try to find someone else to talk to.

I am very comfortable with silence though. I know others feel uncomfortable if they're silent. I don't particularly understand why.

Do you talk a lot? Do you talk only little?

I only talk a lot when I'm comfortable around the person/people and I have something to say.
edit- I guess I should add that in general, if I'm in a social situation even if someone I'm comfortable with is there, I'm very quiet. I don't see a problem with this, but it seems to bother a lot of people. My ex's family used to get on me about how quiet I was and I think they didn't like me because of it.
And my most recent ex's family (I'm still close to the family, considering I had my ex's son. haha) used to not know how to describe me, apparently. They couldn't tell anyone anything about me, because I never talked. I guess they would always say (I got this information from my son's aunt) "Yeah, she's really pretty. But she doesn't talk."
So my son's aunt thought I was just some pretty dumb girl till I started getting comfortable enough to talk and I guess she was actually surprised that I wasn't an idiot. I found that odd. It took me almost 5 years to be truly comfortable enough to talk around them.

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Little.

I wouldn't talk if my mother didn't talk to me (barring to request for things when I'm out, but I can usually point that out with my hand in person or just order it online).

Oh man I talk TONS. No one can ever shut me up! I've always been like that.

And mum says I talk really fast too. I don't think so, but it may be why people have a hard time understanding me on the phone.

But yea, even when I'm having a meltdown I am chatty. I get moreso at the begining of a meltdown, but near the end I'm almost silent.

I am also guilty of this. Many times I can't find the appropriate point to insert myself in to the conversation. I also cannot remember what point I was wanting to make after others have continued talking. In this way I very often interrupt and talk over people and comment on each point of the conversation as it comes whether it is required or not. I know it's not the done thing but the alternative is just nodding and pretending I am listening.


I also have trouble talking to really shy people as I cannot keep a conversation going unless I just start quoting facts at people. I guess that isn't really conversation. I have no idea why those sorts of people are are drawn to me. I am suspicious of people who approach me because for some reason I attract all kinds of looneys.



I get SO very bored when most people talk to me and I probably look uncomfortable too because mostly I am trying to find the quickest way to make the conversation end! Unless someone is far more knowledgeable than me on a particular subject and what they are saying is genuinely useful and interesting I am just nodding and waiting for them to shut up. I hate that I have no interest in other people's lives but it literally makes me irritable if I have to listen to someone yabbering about themselves for to long.



I also don't mind silence. In many cases it is the only way I can actually think.
If I find someone interesting I will try and extract every last bit of information they are willing to disclose from them and will talk at them for hours. Mostly I am very quiet especially around people I don't know.

Little in general but a lot when I come across a topic I know, I'm interested in and my life goal is to enlighten people in this matter . Or when my aim is to shock people with something.

I'm all across the board. It depends on the
situation. If something related to one of my
interests pops up (or a topic I know a lot
about) I can't stop talking. But if I'm stressed
out I'll clam up. I become silent during
shutdowns (usually when I've reached an
impasse with someone and they insist on
"duking-it-out" orally).

am both speech limited and impaired,which means am non verbal most of the time and the rest is mostly echolalic with noises,so in words-am speak little,but in noise,am use unlimited quotas for that.
both family and staff say they prefer am when am non verbal because am do not shut up with noises and grunting,am like the feel of it in back of throat a lot and it feels good to have it back again when its been gone for a long time-so do it a lot when able to,when am non verbal,am have no sound ability at all.
am dont feel a need to talk whether verbal or not.
meltdowns make am completely non verbal,am have had EEGs done and they have picked up the NVism and the part of the brain that is affected.

I'm in a similar boat. Some situations I clam up and try and be invisible, I even find myself hunching down in the chair. I don't really have a problem with that, it gives my wife the opportunity to chew the fat with her friends, gives me the chance to indulge in some people-watching.

My biggest bugbear, though, is the urge I get to share information, often useless titbits I've heard. My poor wife gets the brunt. She'll be vegging after work, reading her book or watching the telly, and i'll stroll in to inform her that the outside temperature is 58 degrees or something dull and useless like that.

A little warning bell inside me rings whenever I hear myself saying "That reminds me of..." or "Did you know that..." because I know that's the start of a monologue. The trouble is I just keep talking, or I'll get an inkling that I'm being boring and sort of fizzle out.

Another problem is coming out with apparently random stuff. You're talking about, say, the train being late, then go quiet. Inside your head, your train of thought is on time, passing from "trains being late" through "that time I had to wait 2 hours at Ely" > "I wonder what Ely station looked like in 1955" > "I bet they didn't have strip lights in 1955" > "my dad's first car was an Austin", then your mouth says "did you know my dad's first car was an Austin?" and go on about how much you love old cars. What's that go to do with thr trains being late? What's more, what chance has someone else got of commenting on your dad's first car? It's a classic aspie one-sided conversation.

I wish there was some kind of gadget you could have in your pocket that gives you a mild electric shock whenever you start on a boring monologue or you feel the need to impart some absolutely fascinating fact to someone who doesn't need to know. And while they're at it, it'sd be nice to have a gadget that automatically moved your head up to make eye contact whenever you speak to someone!

I don't talk much, and when I do it's because I have something I really want to convey.

In a group of people, I talk even less because I am usually too slow to insert myself into a conversation. By the time I figure out what I want to say, the conversation has moved on and I have usually lost track of the conversation. Rather than contribute to a converation, I spend my time thinking about what I can say and looking for opportunities to say something. This usually results in me standing in silence.

It depends on my mood. My talking mostly has to do with my bipolar disorder. Mania makes me talk a lot, depression makes me want to crawl into a hole.

depends on the situation and who is around. If I am comfortable, I talk alot, if I have something to say. If its around people I dont know, i dont tend to talk as much. I interrupt alot also, and cannot help it. I talk with my hands as well, which distracts the crap out of most NTs (lol welcome to our world). I can and do sit for hours without saying anything. doesnt bother me a bit.

Oh and I drift if I'm bored to my own little world.

The only time I'll talk a lot is if I know someone well enough. And even then it's kind of a short conversation. I've had people say things to me like "You should talk more" to which I respond "What do you want me to say?" It's amazing how that response shocks people.

I just don't know how to socialize.

It's no different in Spanish.

I talk a little. Sometimes if I am really anxious and excited I will talk alot

I talk a lot sometimes, but sometimes I'll talk a little. When I am in private, and I am with my Dad, and I want to talk about something that I heard, I talk a lot. I especially talk a lot to my friends on another site, but it's easier for me because I can't see them. So to sum it up, I tend to sometimes not talk too much.