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Hello everybody!

Dutch, male, 26, not officially diagnosed with Asperger, though I'm getting tested very soon I hope.

From my 15th I've struggled with depressions, though my quacks of psychotherapists never had the bright idea to test me for ASD.

- socially insecure and uncomfortable in groups, though not shy
- difficulties with friendships and incapable of relationship
- life marked by obsessions and compulsive behaviour

Only recently I've become familiar with the concept of Asperger Syndrome and it fits. And while the social 'handicap' can be very depressing from time to time, it's the obsession part that's messing up my life.

Reading, computers and internet, but also rollerblading and MMA. I keep dissappearing into my obsessive hobbies and yet at the same time I need them to at least keep up a modicum of happiness. The few times I tried to give it up in order to straighten up my life, everything came crashing down into a pit of clinical depression.

So I'm up for a intake for a diagnostic test, though I'm having mixed feelings about it. I really want to finally identify the cause of why I just can't be simply happy, but on the other hand I'm not looking forward to yet another 'tag' and I'm not too confident in the answers psychotherapy can offer.

Perhaps a community like this one can offer me more answers. Though my first impression so far from online aspie-discussions everywhere is that the majority is about the inability to get a girlfriend.

Nice to meet you, Tobz.

Welcome to WP! hope you enjoy yourself here

Welcome Tobz and hope the tagging goes smoothly!

Welcome to WP!

To WrongPlanet!! !

Hello there! nice to meet you

Good post Tobz. Welkom

Welcome!
(cool, you are from Holland, I am from Belgium, its a small world)

I just read your post, interesting, its like a description of myself (except I dont rollerblade)...
I am thinking about getting a diagnosis very soon, because I believe that way I can get some professionnal help and maybe get in touch with other aspies in my neighbourhood

Anyway, you will find a lot of useful information on this site, it has been a real help for myself.

Pieter

Hello and welcome!

Though there is a lot of "inability to get a girlfriend" topics here, there is WAY more than just that, and I'm sure you'll be able to find a lot of answers here.

Welcome.

Welcome

Hoi, welkom Tobz!

Reading the different topics on these fora helped me to gain new insights into myself and others around me.

About the label... I was lucky to receive a diagnosis when I was around 8 years old, it is not very accurate but good enough to explain things and get some special aid. That can be useful. And it also nice to that some depressions can be linked to certain behaviour or feelings.

I hope you get some insights and have a good time here.

welcome

Rather than giving up your obsessions, why not try just cutting back on them? Or make them a reward for doing something necessary? Or perhaps turn one of your obsessions into a career? I don't think it's healthy for Aspies to give up their obsessions entirely. That's a good way to go insane.

Welcome to WP!