No-life?

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Sometimes, I'm tempted to say that being a good no-life is better than have a wrecked social life. What do you have to say about this?

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Mneh ... it's a way of life.

I resemble that remark.

You could argue either way. If you're happy being reclusive, then I guess that's okay. But if you try to have a life, social skills will develope a lot, and you may find yourself with pleasures you can't find as a recluse.

I'm mostly taking the former route right now, but I'm reconsidering more and more.

Not having a life is not by choice or by lack of trying. I try to have a life. I get ignored when I go places. I hang around and no one talks to me. I try to talk to people and the act like they just heard a toilet flush or something. Not having a life is not the same as being a recluse. It is just a depressing thing that seems to happen most of the time.

I'm rather offended by the phrase "having a life". It seems to imply that if you don't get out and socialize like NTs do, then you're better off dead. There's nothing wrong with being a loner, or having only a few friends, or preferring to spend a quiet evening at home rather than go to a noisy bar.

That's a good saying. Can I use that as a comeback if anybody ever makes fun of me?

While my own quotation (being a good no-life is better than having a wrecked social life) could be used as a comeback statement, I find it hard to define the quality of one's existence as a "no-life". Anyone has an idea?

Maybe being a no-life is not the same as being a recluse, but how is it different?

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I frequently tell people " I don't have a life. I have hobbies instead."

I live in an apartment with literally tons of anime and role-playing games. Literally. I have commercial grade shelving covering one wall to hold up one section of the collection, and stuff overflowing from every horizontal surface, including some areas of floor.

When I compare my life to acquaintances going through messy divorces, ugly romantic meltdowns, family fueds, or the kind of sniping, backbiting and gossipmongering that only the desperate social climbers do, i am reminded that my life is not bad. Most of my friends I met through Dungeons and Dragons, and I attend anime conventions so often that celebrity guests now say hi to me in the halls, because they recognize me. Seriously. If you see Carrie Savage at a con, ask her about visiting a farm in Iowa. She'll remember.

While I would not mind having more romance in my life, I've made peace with the fact that I'm not what most women are looking and am not going to exhaust myself chasing after them.

I have learned to be comfortable inside my own skin. If you can do that, you don't need that much more.

How about, whenever someone says, "Get a Life!", you choose something from the following list?

"I don't need a life, because I have..."

"... a Business."
"... a Career."
"... a Child who Loves Me."
"... a Conscious Committment."
"... a Family that Loves Me."
"... a Hobby."
"... a Husband who Loves Me."
"... a Marriage Made in Heaven."
"... a Mission from God."
"... a Research Fellowship.
"... a Scholarship to an Ivy-League School."
"... a Secret Identity."
"... a Wife who Loves Me."
"... an Education."
"... an Evolutionary Imperative."
"... Good Looks."
"... Free Will."
"... Talent."
"... Wealth."