What's the Hardest Part of Socializing?

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physicsteen
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19 Sep 2008, 7:58 pm

What do you have the most trouble with when it comes to socializing?

Probably the worst is that I will talk about physics and software. I can't tell if the person is bored or does not find the conversation interesting unless they say something. I was called "Physics Freak" at my old school for this instead of "Passionate".

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19 Sep 2008, 10:38 pm

The part where somebody inevitably calls me weird.

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20 Sep 2008, 12:21 am

Trying to avoid killing myself to get out of having to make small talk

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20 Sep 2008, 12:54 am

Knowing what to say to a new person and starting a conversation out of it.

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20 Sep 2008, 1:05 am

Knowing what to say without sounding "random".

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20 Sep 2008, 5:41 am

Looking engaged and using small talk.

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20 Sep 2008, 5:47 am

where you in a room of people and there talking to people and you sat thre and you just on your own and dont now what to do or how to act and what to talk about i be ok if they started taking to me but that dont happin often does it lol

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20 Sep 2008, 5:48 am

Hbomb89 wrote:

Knowing what to say to a new person and starting a conversation out of it.

i have the same

life can be so hard.

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20 Sep 2008, 5:13 pm

Keeping the conversation going. I tend to say something that doesn't trigger a response, and the inevitable silence follows.

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20 Sep 2008, 5:21 pm

Bataar wrote:

Trying to avoid killing myself to get out of having to make small talk

that sounds like me. i just can't make small talk and i hate it! i have to have a a purpose for a conversation.

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20 Sep 2008, 5:53 pm

physicsteen wrote:

Probably the worst is that I will talk about physics and software. I can't tell if the person is bored or does not find the conversation interesting unless they say something. I was called "Physics Freak" at my old school for this instead of "Passionate".

ask them if they're bored or annoyed if they face/eyes move away from you etc. I do sometimes.

For me, it can be "striking up a topic of conversation" with someone if they have litle interests in me so....

EDIT: regarding people who can't stand it. googled and found some atuff; look around.

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe ... ision&cd=2

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe ... ision&cd=3

cazzie wrote:

the rare times I end up in that situation, I stay out of that and wait until something interests me to begin, and arguably "Steer the conversation in that direction" as people call it. Otherwise I just listen. It can suck when it's crowded and a small room and a bunch of people are talking, and it can get into a mish-mash of talking and you have to walk weird and turn around like a slice or bread or something to get between people, duck, etc....

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20 Sep 2008, 9:08 pm

Avoiding being called an "odd little man"

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20 Sep 2008, 9:08 pm

Worst part is finding things to talk about.

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20 Sep 2008, 10:51 pm

Everything.

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20 Sep 2008, 11:32 pm

Confidence in myself. I can do it fine its just I have issues with self esteem that make me closed off and defensive beyond something superficial.

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21 Sep 2008, 9:35 pm

... where do I start?

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