sort of "date", advice?

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Hi,
Well, I've sort of got a date in a weeks time (with a guy I haven't met) and this is a whole new thing for me. Should I dress up/ dress normally? Perfume? Make-up?
Any ideas or advice would be much appreciated!
Thanks in advance

Where is the date at (fancy restaurant, etc)? That should help decide what to wear.
I'd say to be safe, dress a half step less formal than you think the occasion calls for; it helps to put the other person at ease and make you seem more friendly/approachable.
I would go very light on the perfume, first impressions work best with your natural scent. Not too much make-up either, just simple stuff like mascara maybe and some light shimmer. No lip stuff if you can help it.

Basically, just whatever makes you comfortable, you want to look yourself.

I've done this before, my date just asked me what I was going to wear. I just texted a picture of the clothes I had picked out to her. That way we were both on the right page.

It shouldn't hurt to dress up a little. Then again, I like to wear a suit in the middle of the desert. Really, without more information, I can't suggest anything but general advice.
If you havn't met the guy, your best bet is moderation. Present a little bit of all your traits and attributes.

First of all, let me send my sincerest congratulations on you securing this date. It is very diffucult for most autistic people to go on a date, much less think about going on one. My suggestion would be to first find out where you are going. If it is formal, dress up to your heart's content, if it is just an average restaraunt, dress normally. I am betting it will be a regular restaraunt, nothing too formal. Perfume I think would be nice, and I wouldn't go overboard with the make-up, I'd keep it simple, like lip gloss and a very basic style face make up. Good luck!

Thanks, we're not doing anything specific, he's an aspie and I think is a bit nervous about meeting, so it's just going to be casual I guess. I guess just going simple is best...

Jhonhopkin?

I'd say something casual, but still very pretty. Like, instead of jeans and a t-shirt, maybe nice jeans and a cute top of some sort. Also, as for makeup, go for it but not too much. Use lipgloss instead of lipstick, and just some mascara and eyeliner if that's something you do. This way you look really nice, and look like you put the thought into it, but you're not over dressed enough to make him uncomfortable.

lepetitprince: you got his username wrong, but why do you think it's him?

I suggest you wear nothing but a trenchcoat, jinxed, cause I'll be taking you out back.

LPP, considering most of the people on this forum spend the majority of their time talking about their lack of success with women, perhaps taking the piss out of someone who has a reasonable amount of success and tries to help them is less than wise, eh?

And no, it's not me she's going to meet. However, I do know the surrounding details, cause OMGOMGOMGOMG, I talk to her outside of the forum.

N WEE SAIBER f**k EVRY NITE

KTHXBI xxxxx

it was just a simple question since she mentioned that her date is an aspie too so I thought that he' would be most likely a member ...and maybe they knew each other through WP, your overreacted babbling and your false psychological analysis were totally unnecessary.

Besides, why all this anger? isn't jinxed too good for you?

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Now if I were you, I would wear nothing special or dress up not the slightest bit. But that is my intention: if I go to meet somebody I am hoping will like me, I want this person to like me for who I am and not for whom I pretend to be. So I would dress or look the same way as you always do. This is not a job interview or so where artificialness and status should matter, it is about meeting up with someone you may want as a close friend or more. He should take you the way you are and I think that acting in any way you would normally not act is not that wise, after all the best impression to give is the person you really are.

But that is just my advice, and I am not that succesful in dating so ... maybe more succesful daters would advice against this. I personally would only dress up for job interviews, where I need to really impress someone without wanting the person to know my private life in details. For any other occasions, meeting friends or people who may become a bit more than friends, I would want to be the person I am. Dressing up is not needed IMO.

Whatever you decide to do, best of luck!!

crackedpleasures: over dressing and looking fake ARE bad ideas. But looking nice isn't a bad idea at all. You can dress up for a date, just don't go crazy with it, that's all. I don't think that your date-fashion choices have made you unsuccessful in dating, but I think it would help you to put a little effort into it. Most people expect you to look different on a date then on a day when you're doing errands or something, you know?

My own lack of success is due to not dating at all, not due to bad dating experiences. I have this phobia that affects my social and especially my love life drastically and makes it hard for me to propose a girl for a date. So I fail in the stage prior to dating already. I therefor am probably the last person whose advice the OP should follow, I am trying to answer her question by thinking "if I would be the one actually getting a date, how would I behave?". Probably you are right in your approach.