Dyslexia and changes

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I am wondering about how dyslexics handle changes. In Fall 2007, I told several of my college friends that I would be graduating in December. The reaction among most of them were good, but one friend (who is dyslexic, by the way) got upset because of I told him that I was graduating. I pondered about this since then and even asked him about it, which his response was "I need to find a new PR chair" in a student organization that we were both part of. Does dyslexics get upset easily when changes occur or was my friend upset for a different reason.

Off hand, I'd say a different reason. As far as I know (my fingers are dyslexic sometimes, but not as a general rule), there's not that much associated with dyslexia. But I know a little more about AS than dyslexia.

I am dyslexic, and am diagnosed to have clinical depression, so it may not be for all dyslexics, so take this with a grain of salt.

A while ago, a friend of mine (guy who was my best friend, still a good friend) told me he was moving away to take another job that would benefit him in the future. It made me pretty depressed (among with him possibly having a girlfriend and not telling me at all). It felt as if I was losing a friend, and in a way I was. I quickly changed to a defensive stance on that, and only looked at the good things about him moving away (to this day it doesn't bother me him being gone).

I would imagine his "I'll have to find another PR chair" was a defensive position to cope with losing a friend. Does he have many friends other than you, or are you one of his best friends (in his mind)?


I don't know if dyslexia has anything to do with handling changes, but I believe that many people who are dyslexic also have other learning disabilities or issues such as depression or AS.

Hope that helps, let me know if you want any clarification on anything I put there.

I would imagine that he's hurt about the fact that he's losing a good friend then. Even if it's easier for him to make friends i guess it would still sting to lose (or feel like) your losing a friend.

I'm just guessing here, but keeping in contact with him, meeting regularly and making sure that most things don't change (go to parties or whatever you did before with him still), visit the Disability Awareness meetings if they are open to the public out of support, etc. With a little effort I would imagine that he would feel reassured and open himself up a bit more, and you will also be keeping a good friend.

I hope that helps