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Hi everyone,

Just thought I'd introduce myself, I'm new here. I've always wondered why I've never been able to connect with others people in person, and always end up feeling different from everybody else. I'm still not entirely sure if I have AS, but after reading about it I feel like everything has fallen into place, and my life experiences now make perfect sense.

I'm 29, and did a desk bound job with little people contact for the last 8 years. I recently changed career to a field which involves a great deal of people contact, and is extremely competitive. That's where my social problems have really started to show themselves, and I can no longer just ignore my awkward behaviour.

Anyhow, here's my first step on the journey of self-discovery

gr999

Welcome!

oh @#$...not sales...;0

Concentrate on yourself, and getting used to the new job. If you're working hard, and your clients are happy, that will get noticed in a positive way.

and welcome

"Hello," gr999. A pleasure to meet you and glad to see you aboard Wrong Planet.

Nice to meet you, gr999.

Thanks guys.

The key thing that made me think is people's facial expression when I talk: it almost seems like it's painful talking to me, and sometimes there is a look of disgust on their face. They will always end the conversation very quickly. I'm realising it's impossible to hold a conversation of any longer than a few minutes with anybody if it's face to face. It's easier when talking on the phone, but it can still be a bit strained.

I love the new job, and the trainers have said I've picked up the day-to-day job well ahead of schedule, and seem to perform well. It's just that I'm away from home all the time in hotels, and you're expected to socialise with the guys almost every night, which I'm finding impossible. When I try, it's desperately unfulfilling and disappointing. I think people can see there is something 'odd' about me, so while I'm good at the job, it feels as though my behaviour is undermining me.

I sometimes wish I'd known this before changing careers: my family and previous work colleagues have always said that I was just very shy, had bad body language, etc,. and I thought one day it would just go away.

gr999

Hi gr999 and welcome to the wrongplanet. I think it's great that you have taken this step to discovering yourself. Perhaps you do have Asperger's. I think that you can pretty much tell if you have it or not just by looking at the criteria. That's what I did at first, then I made an appointment and got a formal diagnosis---which was no surprise to me. Now, I have agreed to engage in a few counseling sessions to help me with some issues in my life. Good luck to you, and I hope you find the site interesting and informative.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Magliabechi.

To WrongPlanet!! !

welcome to the museum of barnyard oddities

Are any of those guys you are on the road with, the kind of person who could be your personal social coach? Or would asking just get you ragged on eternally?

Welcome!