My boyfriend, who has known about his asperger's for a little over a year now, was informed of it by his best friend, who is also affected. It's so obvious now if you are around the two of them. They can't acknowledge anyone else in the room and talk only about abstracts and conceptual jokes. They both have completely esoteric interests and are not particularly interested in other people socially.
I recently became concerned because my boyfriend's friend has come to the conclusion that caring about people is a source of negativity in the world because choosing one group of people over another is responsible for war, prejudice, etc. While I understand what he's saying here, I am really saddened that my boyfriend's best friend, whom he loves, tells him that he is above or no longer has any interested in romantic relationships, or even apparently social friendships. He says that he values people only as sources of new ideas or to share ideas with. I have a suspicion that his arrogance is really butting it's ugly head in here. It also makes me particularly sad that he can see no value in relationships with other species because there is no exchange of ideas. This person is probably one of the most influential human beings in my boyfriend's life, and he particularly values his opinion. Because I am so emotionally invested in this, I hate to think of this idea that personal relationships be irrelevant. I would be really interested in know if any of you encounter this regularly. Thanks.
21 Dec 2008, 11:19 am
