How Are Your Relationships With Your Peers?

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Do You get on well with Your peers? I, personally, can't find anything in common with my peers... I prefer the company of people older than me or little children... Anyone else experiance it?

It is quite common for those of us with Asperger's to not feel comfortable around our peers. We often do prefer older friends. When I was in school I had a best friend my age, but I noticed the majority of my friends were older than me---I mean I was even great friends with my band director---and still am.

I couldn't find much in common with my peers either. Whenever I was around them, like at lunch, I felt like I was looking through a window in at them. The glass (figuratively speaking) prevented me from communicating in an appropriate manner. I still feel this way around people. I felt isolated from everyone else. I still feel that way. It takes a lot of effort for me to get into a conversation with my fellow employees.

As we know, this is caused by being on the autistic spectrum---so it is normal for us on the spectrum. For most of us with Asperger's, we have intense interests. Isn't it neat that for the lack of friendships most of us have, we have special interests to occupy our time instead? This is what I have noticed---except for my family, I prefer being around objects rather than people.

What peers?

All my friends except for like 3 are older than me. There not a huge age difference. I just hang out with them because they are member of the same fire station. Also all my friends except for 4 are boys. I usually get along good. We have our moments but I mean when I'm 14 and your almost 18 were going to but heads NT or not.

> What peers?

Exactly.

But the people that superficially seem to be my peers at first glance, ie people of my age or field of work . . . I try my best to fit in, though it does not feel natural and it is a bit of work. It seems like the right thing to do, though I don't fool myself they are great friends or anything beyond the merest of acquaintances.

Currently nonexistent. The only people I can get along with are those much older or much younger than myself.

I only keep track of whatever people I'm around.

Charming. Irony aside, that's to say, not at all. I clash horribly with most people and peers make no exception.

I can't decide whether I get along worse with older people or peers.

Older people tend to hate me in their typical adult-ish way. Treating me like a 5-year-old.

Peers make it more obvious. But the older people are worse because it's impossible to escape them when you're out of school.

I feel that I have a fairly lot in common with my peers though. It's not that we're particularly different if you forget about my autism for a moment.

My interests are perfectly normal, even a bit immature, for my age. I like being social, I like parties, I like books, I like music, I'm lazy, obnoxious and hate authority...

I'm just too weird for my peers. Too autistic.

Peers.

Man I hate that word.
As has been posted by others: Not at all.

Apart from a few friends, I generally struggle to connect with peers. It's like me and them are completely different.

Theres a couple i'm friendly enough with, but none are truly my friend. The rest . . . . 95% of my peers i don't really talk to, or put myself out there in front of them. The course i'm doing seems to attract ALL the SAME kind of people i just can't really bond with or relate to, so its extremely hard for me. Whereas back in high school even if i had no friends, i really like alot of people there for who they were and enjoyed how some of them were wierdo's and different, and very interested in having a long meaningful conversation. You can't seem to find any misfits in my course . . . . Except a couple of secretively depressive types who try fit into the mainstream (which i can't so much blame either in some respects).

zilch, I never could relate to peers or have friends, the older ones bullied me and so I got along well only with younger kids, some half my age...