AS ruined my only shot at love

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I really don't want to go into details, I am way too depressed. I basically completely screwed up my only shot at love because I am the way I am and don't even know what that means! This stupid disorder is wreaking havoc on my life!

I didn't know what to do so I came here, I don't even know why or what to say but I can just be myself here and... I don't know.

I was 22 when something like that happened to me. To this day it's still my greatest regret.

All I can tell you is to look at what happened objectively and learn from it so that mistake does not repeat itself and make sure you do not forget.

as I type this, behind me, hanging on the wall over my bed is a simple handmade necklace that girl gave to me on my birthday almost a decade ago. Its my daily reminder.

tell me about it i can barely handle kissing but when someone sticks tongue in mouth thats way too much i tend to get lot of atention they say i look "cute" i just cant stand all sosializing eyc...i hope u get second shot

SethZach, I was 19 too when I experience my first break-up. She was the whole world to me. I thought at the time I will never ever find someone as good as her. To be honest, I haven't!

For what it's worth, time is the best healer and you will get over it. Hang in there. I won't pretend to say I have forgotten her and moved on, however, to say that you will only ever have one shot at love is not true. You're only 19, there more heartache on the horizon!

Chin up, it will be okay. The experience will make you a better person, and more importantly a better companion.

What on earth posesses you to think that this was your only shot??????????

Whenever you lose, make sure you don't lose the lesson.

Good News/Bad News

Good:- You will get over this and it won't be your 'only' shot.

Bad:- It wont be the only time something ruins it for you. AS or otherwise.

try to be 29 and never be kissed. although i, too, get a lot of attention and they say i look cute. what is not as easy at this age

You only "ruined" a shot at "love" with someone with whom it would'nt have worked out. it will hurt like hell for a long time. Then it will get better. You might decide to try love again or you might decide to stay alone, either of which are completely okay. It is not necessary to be in a relationship to be happy, you can be content at every stage of your life. And a real love will accept you for you. that doesn't mean everyone will accept you and that's okay. would you truly want to be with someone and continue to mold yourself to their wishes every freaking day?

Stop making excuses. I've AS and found love.

Wow I am glad the depression went away the next day, some of these replies are very depressing.
I am OK now and I didn't actually break up with anyone, I might still have a shot at having my love.
I would never want anyone else, it wouldn't be the same. I overreacted when my depression was triggered and was a little paranoid. OK I was very paranoid but my mind wasn't clear. Thank you all for trying to cheer me up but I think I will handle the next depression episode on my own, no offense intended.

Then it was your depression, not your AS that you thought had ruined it. You can beat depression; you cannot beat AS, and so here's hoping it was your depression causing you to "nearly lose" your "shot".

You're 19. You have depression. It will get better. I was 19 with depression and actually LOST what I thought was my only shot. Granted, I didn't know I had AS then, but the fact still remains. He couldn't handle my AS, or my depression. His loss. He's now back living with his parents, after a string of failed relationships because "they just couldn't get" him.

Safe to say, it wasn't my only shot.

Is the same person you wrote about in Random Discussion?