Music was too loud at church

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My son wanted to go to church. It was his idea. He was so thrilled about going. We sat in the back row. When the music started, we lasted all of 7 minutes. I found the music to be somewhat loud. He found it to be torture. We left. He wants to try the same church again, only wear his ear defenders next time. I wish his ears weren't so sensitive. Sometimes people make the dumbest comments to us when he's wearing ear defenders. I'll probably talk him into trying a different church that isn't so music-focused.

My son has had similar problems with noise, not in church, but when going to see steam trains! It's a real shame, all that anticipation of enjoying something, and then it's just too noisy.

Was it organ music? That can be very loud. Perhaps a church with a simple praise band, which can be more mellow and muted, or simply less amplification would be better.

If he can't be persuaded to try another church, then I'd go for the ear defenders. If you found it loud, then chances are that others do as well, and will be sympathetic.

Good luck!

Prepare to be ostracized.

It is entirely likely that you and your son will be seen as "obviously" making a statement against Christian music by his use of Ear Defenders. You are likely to receive no sympathy, regardless of how you explain your son's needs. You are likely to be asked if you expect the whole congregation - especially the music ministry - to kow-tow to your demands when "everybody" else likes things the way that they are and "nobody" else is complaining.

I'm not saying that this is going to happen, I'm just saying that you may want to prepare yourselves for it.

If nothing else, you could try going to a Church of Christ. I grew up in that church, and while I ordinarily wouldn't recommend it to anyone, there is one aspect of their creed that could be helpful to your son. Many Church of Christ congregations do not allow musical instruments in worship. All the singing is a cappella. This varies from congregation to congregation, so you'd want to call ahead and check.

My son is like that, too. We don't go in during the worship time.

Whatever you do, avoid Episcopal churches. Episcopal churches usually have loud music from my experience. I'm not sure which denomination of church you attended, though.


-NovaBat