New GF? She's 18. I'm 31.

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I'm an underachieving, unemployed art-nerd oddball who has problems fitting into society. She's a fairly normal college freshman, checkout girl at a healthy grocery store. She's really cute. She's really attracted to me for some reason. I like her a lot so far.

What am I thinking? Should I be happy? Does age really matter that much? I'm beginning to obsess over it, so I'm not sure it'll work if I'm over-analyzing everything anyway.

Advice? Disgust? Praise?

Praise.


No advice from me, but you have my blessings, if that means anything at all.

It's a sizable age gap, but I've had worse. Actually, it was exactly the same, only she was 13 years older than me.

She's in college, she's got a job, and she's old enough(legally speaking) to make her own decisions.

If you two genuinely enjoy each other's company, then I see nothing wrong with it.

Unless of course you enjoy drinking alcohol...

Go for it and good luck.

She's 18 and likes you... enjoy yourself and don't take her for granted.

Go for it.
Seriously, if she's into you and you're into her, go for it.

I am wary of the alcohol situation. We've drank together, but she's always provided her own means of obtaining alcohol. So, it's not like I'm buying her alcohol to get her drunk. I've only been seeing her for a couple weeks, so it's too soon to tell if booze is going to be a negative factor in all this....

Isn't that illegal drinking where you're from? I don't know what the rules are in Chicago, but I thought you had to be 21 to drink in most of the US.

Well everyone has their own definition of love.
I say go for it, because if the age gap is a problem and you end up heartbroken, it might be regrettable. But if you don't go for it, you'll definitely regret that.

I'd say there's a good possibility that it could work out fine. Especially if you are somewhat socially immature, as many of us older aspies are. That would mean that the both of you could be at a similar mental age, and get along great. As stated above....it would be better to give it a shot now, rather than regret it later on.

If you like her and she likes you, go for it! Age shouldn't matter, you are both consenting adults so the age gap shouldn't be too important.

My boyfriend and I are sixteen years apart, I'm 29 and he's 45. Our age difference hasn't been a problem in our relationship, and we've been together for nearly three and a half years.

We are both aspies, and our relationship is the longest that either of us has experienced. This is probably due to the fact that we are both on the spectrum, and are able to understand each other better than our former neurotypical partners were.

I don't think that age is as big of an influence on a relationship as other factors are, such as temperament and interests. If you are both compatible with each other, then give the relationship a try. I believe that chronological age is highly overrated as a categorization of a person.

My $0.02.

~ Caterina

Just make sure you see her birth certificate or a passport to verify her age. Driver's licenses can be faked.
And 18 years old is just one step away from jail bait.

If she 18 she is legal and there should be no problem in dating. Enjoy your relationship and have fun.

I don't think the age matters as long as you are both happy.