People with non-high standards seeking only for highest

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Doesn't piss you off when you hear people with non-high physical standards seek only and only for people of typical model-like standards?

I know some girls/guys who are either too overweight , too short or obviously not gorgeous at all who are nagging all time because they want a 'hot' partner. I know couple of overweight girls who keep complaining for not finding a boyfriend , yet they only want a tall good-looking guy with shaved muscularly chest and 6-packs! I know also plenty of non-hot guys with the same attitude and want only hot top-gorgeous girls.

I mean wtf? Why those hotties would even want you in the first place if you don't even meet the half of their physical standards? How would you even find someone if you aren't even willing to make any improvement of you body or making any compromise regarding your partner's standards?

I used to be like that...

now the only physical traits I want in a woman are: not fatter than me (and to be fatter than me requires a significant amount of weight), and within the ages of 18-25...

People always want what they can't have, it's human nature. But why do you care about people with shallow standards anyway?

Another one, which I see all too often, is people who have a lot of emotional baggage and unresolved issues, yet they expect their partner to have a perfect personality.

I am fairly good-looking, what is funny is that I like only a few traits that I am particular about, if I guy has those traits, then I am happy. If he if a little hefty, or a little weird, or a little nerdish that's okay.

So people want the best - more than they deserve - and we're... surprised?

It tends to irk me when people have high physical standards at all. It's just flesh, for sh*t's sake. If you can't love them for more than that, I can't truly believe there's anything fulfilling to be had. Unless, of course, it's for a quick bang, but then I don't agree with that, either.

What if someone is on the low end of the intellectual and personality scale, yet is extremely physically good-looking, and seeks someone good looking? Doesn't that count as a sort of lower quality? What if they're of low intellect and seek high intellect, regardless of looks? Is this equally vexing?

Just some things to consider.

Maybe it's my age, but looks doesn't even make my list when it comes to looking for a partner to be in a relationship with. I prefer someone that lets me be me and enjoys some of the same things I do. I also want a guy that has a lot of character and values.

Why should people lower their standards because of what they look like? Maybe they will have less chance of finding anyone.. but really.. do they deserve a hot guy any less than a hot girl does?

It doesn't annoy me I find it funny.

I get annoyed if they have a low self esteem about there physical appearence and then you find out they are really judgemental of other people. Ha those sorts of people deserve their low self esteem.

I don't get annoyed. either they manage to find someone, or their standards change or they will be alone forever.

none of which influence my life at all.

I guess people want what they wish to be themselves...

it is a nuisance that sexuality and mentality are so intertwined in people.
people are always so engrossed in my talk until i will not give them sex, and then they lose interest completely.
what fakes. they do not care really for what i say. i am sure they would like to switch my consciousness off and just have my body.
even men do that a lot. there are closet homosexuals who are so interested to encourage me to talk about what i want, and then they steer me into sexual conversation.
when they realize i am totally disinterested in men sexually, they pack up their wares and move on. "whoa" i think. what a con artist.

people who can only love physically beautiful things are not admired by me.

if someone was going to get a blow up doll, then i guess it is reasonable they choose the most appealing to their sexuality, as they are not going to talk to them and love them.

but to have physical beauty as the sole criterion of ones "love" foundation is fake to a gross degree.

i actually am not attracted to girls who are "stunning" by magazine standards. my standards are not magazine standards. i do not really have any standards.
but "supermodels" i see in glossy photo's are gross looking to me. angelina joley is not attractive at all in my mind. i am blind to why people see her as so beautiful.

she looks fake and crafted by a hospital. her lips are far too fat for her BMI. she has protruding clavicles and she is underweight and her teeth are splayed and too prominent. she leers at the camera. these are not reasons i would shun anyone, but conversely, i can not understand why they are reasons that so many men have her in their mind as a sexual ideal.

nearly every girl is beautiful if she does not work hard on modifications (tanning/gym/makeup/plastic surgery).

i like an average normal girl better than the weird proportioned "super sexy" girls that other men point out.

i like girls who do not care what they look like and who do not care what others look like.
i like girls who dress simply (like in tracksuit pants and tee shirts or whatever (not dresses and other image based things)) and who are un made up and who wear their hair as it naturally grows. i like them because the whole visual hurdle of their appreciation is removed.

if i had a personality, i could possibly get some "magazine quality" girls.
but i do not want to be involved in such a labile and fake reality.
i am not attracted at all to the glitzy and chic side of life.
"magazine quality" is judged by people who i have no identification with and i do not see them as better looking than girls on the streets.

hope i made sense.
i can not write well

I consider looking nice to be a necessary but not sufficient condition for me to find a woman attractive. I don't think I'm all that picky about looks but I can't say I'd honestly go out with someone who just didn't do it for me in that respect. I'm not sure if my standards are too high or not, but I don't feel comfortable just making myself lower them. I'm too afraid of letting down a girl who I respect as a person.

That's not to say that some women who don't strike me as especially attractive can't grow on me later. But I don't think that all women can. You have to have some things going for you, at least.