NT's liking me

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It seems like Neurotypical people that I go to school with like me, but the only thing is that I worry if they are just pretending to be nice to me and they are making fun of me and being mean to me. Does anyone have any advice

I'd say just be yourself and don't worry about it. When I went to college I made friends right away, and I didn't know why they liked me, seems like you're in the same boat .

One way to tell is if you get invited to an event or if you ask if you can come along, and the NT's become "sick" or come up with another excuse. I had that happened to me this past weekend. I recognize the pattern.

It's like that with me too. People seem overly nice, even though they act differently when talking to their other friends. I wish people would learn that I'm not stupid.

I recall once in middle school I was trying to make friends with a popular kid, he was nice and funny. But I actually mostly made friends with him because he hung close to the girl I liked, (and later they would be together for a little bit causing some of the greatest depression in my life, but thats another story.) Anyway I IM'ed him frequently, I asked him to hang out at my house several times, he must have made an excuse at least 3-4 times in a row.

I was once confronted by one of the guys in that circle of friends (which was huge at the time, much smaller and broken up these days) He didn't say directly that I was trying to hard to fit in, but he said something about me trying to hang with them all the time. I don't remember taking it to hard at the time.

If this helps at all, I was crowned Prom Prince during my junior year at the prom, and I had 25 more votes than the 1st, Runner Up. I was also on the King of Hearts Court, which is kind of like a homecoming court for guys. I also have people that say hi to me a lot, and one time when I walked into a room, everyone was so excited that I was there, especially this one girl. I still hope that I am truly liked and accepted by NT's.

people can be (genuinely) overly nice to you because they feel sorry for you, or because they think that you do not trust them.

Well I'd hang out with you all!! !

speaking of prom prince, i may not have gone that far but i was named the most "popular" guy by the end of my secondary grade. (read popular : well-known, i was nice enough to remember most people's name when i'd wish em a good day)

As for the rest of the topic : i generally don't bother myself too much with what others think about me. If they think i'm annoying, let em be ^^; If they like me, that's good too. =/ They usually don't go the extra mile to reach me though, so it's usually small encounters that are on the short / mid term.