The Unification of Love and Sex

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Where, oh where did this ridiculous society myth that love and sex are Not mutually exclusive come from?
Women love to promulgate it and in relationships they pretend that its true but even THEY no better than that. For example, I one read an article about how to explain sex to children starting with: When a man and woman really love each others.......

GAH! That sh*t makes me wanna PUKE!

Where did this Asperger's assumption that sex and love are only EVER separate come from?

I would not want to have sex with someone I wasn't in love with. I've done it just because I wanted to be like everyone else. They seemed to be having fun. It was just awkward for me.

I think guys can have sex without being in love and they may even think girls are weak for not being able to not care. This used to bother me and I tried to overcome my emotions by trying to view sex like a man. I found that it was just 2 dimensional, meaningless, and base.

For me, and I suspect many other girls, the whole body orgasm makes the genital one seem dull. A clitoris has many more nerve ending than does the tip of a penis. Therefore, we can have a similar male orgasm experience but still, the whole body love connection orgasm is far more extraordinary.

So, men don't need and often don't want love with sex. Women need love to have the ultimate orgasm. It's an evolutionary joke to make us suffer.

^ Wow I have no idea what you're talking about but it sounds very interesting!

^What part are you missing?

Perhaps you should try to have tantric sex with aliens.

^ I've never heard of the 'full body' orgasm that requires love. It sounds intruiging.
Hey I'd take an alien!

I think you should never have sex with someone you don't love. It just doesn't make any sense. I know it feels good and all, but why would you do that?

It is a personal thing, whether the person can seperate the physical from the emotional or not. They are two seperate entities, however with all the release in chemicles and the like, some cannot see the difference between the two.

You MAY have SEX WITHOUT LOVE

You MAY have LOVE WITHOUT SEX

LOVE MAY OR MAY NOT lead to SEX

That's the simple truth.

I've discovered I can't actually have sex without love. I can, in that I can be penetrated, but I can't get any further than that; I'm frigid all the way through, and it can hurt. If I were a man, I'd be flaccid.

I think that it's a popular image in the media and in our romantic society since the feeling of limerence, and the passion it brings to sex, is a very strong, even urgent, emotion. Sex without love or limerence is often considered very unfulfilling. I can't imagine why anyone would want to have sex without the other emotions, since all that is left is physical, which, in my opinion, feels empty and even difficult (or in my case, impossible) to achieve without emotional and psychological backing.

What I'm trying to say is, it's common to associate the two, and according to many accounts cross-culturally, not just restricted to our own culture and current modern societies. It's just much more encouraged and less suppressed than in some others. Maybe the 'aspie culture' has a different view, which makes sense considering the effects it has on bonding and social activities, which is what we're talking about. So, if you don't like it, that doesn't mean it's false or negative, it's just a different point of view altogether. I can understand both sides, but I'm [possibly unfortunately] NT when it comes to this sort of subject, obviously.

I believe it was Woody Allen who once said about casual sex, "As far as meaningless experiences go, its one of the best."

Personally, I find it impossible to be sexually attracted to anyone I care about,which is why I prefer to have sex with strangers.