I'm extremely sad and embarrassed

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I was making popcorn, and i heard a funny noise. Then the doorbell rang. It was about 7:30 and no one ever rings the doorbell that late. a few minutes later it rang again. I called my mother. My dog always can tell when someone at the door, and when they are or when they ring the doorbell she races up to it and barks. She didn't do this. she went outside and just sat there. My guinea pig started weeking like crazy, and my cat and other dog started go crazy. my rabbit started having a tantrum in his cage. Then i started hearing noises like dragging metal, and prowling on the lawn and my mother called the police and asked them to drive by. my stepdad made them call me but i wwas afraid to answer. then my dog started barking and there was a very frightening pounding, and it hurt my head. and then there was yelling, which scared me more, so i called my mom, and then there was banging not like knocking banging but smashing banging, and then i heard my stepdad say on the phone to the police while i was on with my mother"no! don't smash the door down!" which scared me even more.and he started mentiong me and Autism. and then they said they ahd to see me and my mom said they were almost home and just to wait, and then they got home and the police were there.

why I'm really really embarrassed. It turns out it was just some neighbor dropping off my mail that they got by accident.

I'm extremely embarrassed and mortified. I got so scared, and i couldn't even answer the phone for the police or even the door. and all for some neighbor kindly returning the mail. I feel like a failure. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed.

Well, the kindly neighbor could have just put your mail in your mailbox, or slid it under your door, or left it next to your door, or kept it until your parents were home, from what you had to say I'm guessing they weren't, seriously if someone was banging on my door just to return some mail I'd be kinda pissed, you don't bang on someones door to return some mail, while you may have overreacted a little, this neighbor could have handled the situation a little smarter than they did.

I guess i didn't mention, the second yelling and banging was the police attempting to smash my front door it.

I loled.

No worries. I don't answer my door unless I'm expecting someone. Everyone who knows me, knows that and if they have plans to come over they have to call first and book it in advance. So I would be equally freaked out just like you.

I would have been scared too! I mean, that is an odd way to go about returning someone's mail. Anyways, it's better to be safe than sorry even though it did turn out to be something essentially non-threatening.

I dont' answer the door when i'm alone, i dont know why. it's an accident, accidents happen

Your parents may have been too afraid for you to think of it at the time, but when they first called, they really should have told the police that you are autistic and probably would be unable to answer the door.

Again, you did nothing wrong, and your reaction was not out of the ordinary for someone with autism. You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

Feel however you must about it, but I hope you feel better about it soon. No one has been harmed, life goes on, and you behaved in an understandable and acceptable fashion.

You're not wrong to feel ashamed or embarrassed or as though you are a failure, but the feeling's content is not an accurate indication of the reality. You are not a failure and have not conducted yourself shamefully, so do not misconstrue your understandable feelings for a realistic appraisal of yourself or your qualities.

To summarize, your feelings about this are understandable but unrealistic, you do not deserve to feel badly about yourself or your conduct as a result of what happened, and I hope you feel better (or less negatively) about it all soon.

An excess of animals without owning a farm.

I'd be scared too, but more of the police...the police scare the bejesus out of me.