what's YOUR style?

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what is your loving style:

erotic - in it for the physical, nuff said... this one is common to have terms of endearment
manic - you cannot live without your SO, you feel that you will die without your lovie
ludic - you are in it for the game, its one big thing of cat and mouse
pragmatic - you are very careful, fully research your sweetheart (down to the dental records)
storgic - develops from a friendship
agapic - a self sacrificing love

I'm a mix between the last three, but definitely 'storgic' stands out to me. It's without a doubt the deepest, most fulfilling sort of relationship I can imagine, and I doubt I could even feel limerence without at least some aspect of friendship.

I'm very wary at first, but once my trust is placed, I'm basically like that rickroll type of love... So yeah, agapic...

IM the guy sitting in the corner just observing... And raiding the sanck tabe occasionaly!

It's hard to answer because most times it depends on my mood and my needs at the time. Long term? Storgic.

not ludic and not pragmatic unless you count wanting to learn everything about them in a special-interest type of way.

Definitely Storgic. And then the people who i am romantically involved with tend to be my best friends and I am able to remain friends with them after the relationship is over...for the most part....

Heh, after voting i guess i fit the average choice....Storgic... I can't see myself having a relationship out of sheer lust ... (although it's definitely a plus ^^; ). And with the precarity of relationships today, i'd really like someone honest, who i could trust and know better .... And who could of course accept me as i am.... Oh and as the person above me said, if it doesn't work, i still like to have the person as a friend... Lessens the blow from the rejection...

Tragic.

Pragmatic-storgic. With just a tinge of manic-erotic, but that comes later.

Yes, I'm interested in her dental records.

Storgic. Some times i have met people, gotten
along and it have evolved. I have never gone
out hunting or had one night stands, its just so
......i dont know, not interessting in any way
for me. I understand that other people do it,
i just dont get the same out of it as they do.
Have been to clubs and stuff like that alot when
i was younger, the kind of places where hunt
and play is all people do. Omg how boring those
places were and if some girl tried some dumb
move on me i just said "sorry, move along, not
interested." Or "sorry, not gay" when a dude
pulled a move. I seemed to be a magnet for gay
guys *facepalm* I have no idea why and
did my best to avoid it, but with little luck

I guess I would say "agapic-storgic". I never thought I would quote a Michael Bolton song in my life, but "How can be we lovers if we can't be friends?" If we can't get along outside of the bedroom, it's a no-go for me.

And yet for some strange reason, it is considered a "cardinal sin" to try to be friends with a woman first, and then see where it goes.

(shrug)

^
"I never thought I would quote a Michael Bolton song in
my life, but "How can be we lovers if we can't be friends?"

nice

Thanks. Maybe it's just me, but I think that's one of the reasons half of marriages - including my own - end in divorce. People don't take the time to get to know each other first as people before jumping into bed together.

In my mind, they are doing things in the wrong order.

Like I did once. My (now ex-) wife came home with me on our second date - and never left... But silly Aspie me was so desparate at that point I didn't care.

Lesson learned - the hard way.

But I thought erotic was more than just physical...like kinky and stuff.....

Erotic is also the love at first sight.