Celebrate Women with Asperger's Syndrome

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ynzxEX1Bww

This was therapeutic for me, to help me forgive my mother.

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Your mother probably had AS too you're saying?

mine too...probably has...

Nice video!

Mine probably does too. That makes both parents so I had no chance.

great vid, whitetiger.

You know, these vids you post, move me greatly. This one in particular. I also suspect my mum is undx'ed AS. she acknowledges "many traits" in herself, and acknowledges my AS and the possibility there are others of her 8 children on the spectrum. (Th ere DEFINITELY is.)

what is amazing is my recent diagnosis has inadvertently released her from a lot of pain. Initially she began reading up on autism when my nephew was diagnosed.
I know she has felt very pained privately, about her difficulty mothering 8 of us. and her husband walked out - so imagine 8 kids - one at least AS (two in fact,) and a mum who tends more toward classic AS than anything else in the world. She kept us together and we did not end up in homes - which was amazing.
A house full of clutter, lists of chores, rubbish, unkempt garden, chaos and kids. and a mum who had meltdowns and could not work out how to live socially. NO friends of her own really.
No friends of my siblings even allowed over to our house.

For years i think my mum has secretly harboured a private hell...a self-blame that her children had struggles and that it must have been because of her "bad parenting."

I am glad you made this vid and i am also glad my mum - a brilliant old eccentric woman at 75 -who follows the weather forecast and current affairs and is so sweet and kind and left-wing and caring in a politicised, social-justice kind of way - is finally finding out that she did her absolute best and really is amzing.

just as we are.

thanks again.

Thank you all and especially Millie. I was feeling sad last night. My aunt spoke to a psychologist who is doing a "level of functioning/adapting" test on me and she told him my mother was the "most selfish woman he had ever met." And, she's right. But, she also had AS, I'm sure. For that, I can forgive her.

There's not enough attention to finding women historically to label with AS, and young girls with AS need role models. So, I made the video as a form of therapy for me.

Thank you for making it and sharing it. It is very inspiring.

Why? Why not Celebrate People with Asperger's Syndrome?

Are women just born with low self esteem that they need to celebrate everything about themselves and make themselves feel better?

Come on, you're the same as everyone else. Buck up.

When you see a list of famous people retroactively diagnosed with AS, all are men except for the 4 featured in my video. The ratio of men to women, boys to girls, diagnosed with AS is 1:4 and I believe the number is far too low because professionals don't understand that AS presents itself differently in autism. So, for that reason, I felt that making this video was valuable.

Men need to "buck up" and understand the AS women's perspective, not the other way around, as you suggest.

I don't have the bandwidth to watch videos, alas. Can you tell me who the four women you included are? Thanks.

That's really nice White Tiger.

Ironically, my mother is hypersocial, even though I came out Aspie. I know I got it from my dad. He's slighly Aspie but has done better with social skills, especially at work, later in life. My mother wears us both out sometimes with all her talking and making friends everywhere she goes.

Emily Dickenson
Virginia Woolf (Bipolar & Asperger)
Temple Grandin
Donna Williams
My mother (who wasn't really famous)

This makes me wonder if my maternal grandmother was on the spectrum. Not so much because she was an awful mother, bordering on abusive, but because she was also very cold, undemonstrative and completely without any affection towards my Mum and her siblings thought her life.

I left out Jane Austen, so now I want to make a documentary-type video of Jane Austen's autism.