When friends change

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Has anyone ever had any friends or online ones where they change and you just can't get along with them anymore because they had become different people or you don't like who they had become so you can't accept them anymore?



I have had this experiance a few times. Now one of my aspie friends has changed so we fight a lot now and it seems like we always argue on IM when we chat. I just had a little fight with him which I posted about in the adult board. I miss the old him because I can't seem to get along with the new him. I don't even know how much longer we'll be friends. We keep fighting and its hard to not fight. I guess he is one of those people where I can't get along with anymore. He keeps saying random things and he is a random person which drives me crazy. It gets overwhelming for me. I'm afraid I can't accept him for who he is because of how it makes me feel and drives me crazy and the fact we keep fighting.

A couple of my friends have changed in the past year. I don't like spending time with them anymore. I don't know why it is.

Be happy at the change... Without change, the world will seem boring.

And at least you still have friends!

what is the big deal about this - you change and others change. The most of those to whom I have been around in your age, married, moved to other towns and developed other interest. So contact lost and I do not see here a big lost too. A very few are still in "radar" and only two I consider as friends.

So, that's the game.

I'm the opposite, I change and my friends don't. I had a friend since a few years ago, then she started to annoy me so much because she was acting just as childish as when we met, while I had become more mature. Then she stopped speaking to me cos I'd changed, and I really didn't care that much.

I'd say I've changed groups of friends about 3 times now. Some of them I still hold in high regard, others not so much.

I guess that's the way it goes in life, they changed, and no doubt I did too. It would be nice to find somebody who even throughout all the change, can still admit to being who they were before... Hopefully that will come with time and maturity?

Read my post again. His personality changed so we are fighting all the time when we chat. Sometimes friendships get destroyed when one of them changes their personality because the other friend doesn't like how their friend is treating them or how they are making them feel, etc.

I had a friend whose personality changed 180 degrees, now I haven't heard from her in almost three months.

yeah I dislike it when that happens.
Especially when they get into bad things.

Yes, personalities change too. This in your age not that uncommon. People in the early 20s still seeking themselves and their place in society. It becomes rarer in later years (and can happen again, quite drastically in high age - but this is an other issue).

As I said nothing unusually, you need to learn to handle this. So fare you are not dependent on a person, financially or otherwise, you can safely ignore this.

This happened to me once I reached middle school and beyond. It's not them that just changed, I changed as well so I won't totally blame them. Stuff like this happens, some of my best friends in elementary school I never talked to years later. That's the way it goes.

If you like the changes, you will embrace them even from your close friend.

But if you don't, just ignore them... Don't bother! Bothering about others really hurt...

Thats life in a sense, people change and things change over time. Its something that I've learnt over the years.

Well, there is one online friend who I don't talk to as much as I used to. We both kinda changed so it got kinda hard to talk to him.

I used to get hung up on this all the time. Any time I grew apart from a friend I just sort of felt like it was my fault, either for changing too much or not enough.

My solution is just to remember that I'll always be friends with the way people are when I'm friends with them. Just because someone changes doesn't undo your history with them.