Atheism and dating

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Do you think Atheism affects your chances in relationships?

In my case , it is : http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt89065.html

what about yours?

This thread is only for atheists , any people of minority groups can reply too.

Sounds like a boring subject to bring up on a date

^^ surely it is, but this is not the subject of the thread.

As an adeist, I can relate in many respects... although I cannot make the same sweeping generalizations made in the other thread. Being that I do have a belief system but do not believe in a godhead or figurehead, I often find myself under greater scrutiny than one who simply does not believe. At the same time, what I have faith in does not preclude another from having their own, and I find a sense of faith (albeit not blind) very attractive in a partner - and without regard to whether it is Protestant or witchcraft. I've had some doors close as a result, a few others open. Something I found was that a lot of what I thought I wanted or needed in a mate was arbitrary and deluded thinking, the result of external influence and petty desire - when it comes down to what really matters to me, the person I sought was no less rare, but was able to see clearly instead of trying to convince myself of something else entirely.


M.

in norway, agnosticism seems to be the most common "belief", and so, religious views are never really an issue.

someone truly christian, or belonging to any other faith, could be seen as something slightly exotic.
ive had people "pull chicks" by pretending to be a believing christian

It doesn't really hurt me, but I'm also gay and most gay guys aren't very religious anyway.

Same in the places I've lived in this state, at least. It wasn't quite as true in Texas, but even there I knew plenty of agnostics and atheists. THEY'RE EVERYWHERE.

as a nation, the US has a lot more openly flashed religion than here. a general belief in god seems very common there, even if its not practiced or anything.

COMEDIANS here pretended to be politicians, and ended a speech with "god bless norway" to great laughs

statistically, i think the benelux-states are the least religious in europe, on "street level" anyway. norway has a little "bible belt" in the south-west, where they even got one or two evangelists :O :O :O

I guess it might have some effect. I don't go around talking about my religious preferences, because frankly I don't care. But, when it does come up, and she wants to leave me because if it, it wasn't going to work anyway. I'm a very forgiving person, and want someone who is forgiving as well.

Hmm....is that hypocritical? I won't accept someone who doesn't forgive, because I am so forgiving?

Yes, the US as a whole is built on that image. But in the state I live, the general belief is, "Who the f**k cares?" I know there are religious fanatics here, I just don't meet them all that often. The Mexicans are Catholic but it seems to be a social construct rather than anything else. I never hear anyone talk about 'God'. The church down the way is a bizarre mish-mash of Jewish synagogue and Catholic...something. At least I think it's a church.

Not many people I've run into care that much unless of course their obviously those religious fundementalists who believe they can change your "belief" system which can be very annoying at times.

what IS kinda paradoxal, is that norway is one of few countries in the world w a state-religon. UK and a FEW others in europe has one too, otherwise its mostly just the arabs who has a state-religion.
they are going to remove it tho, which is good. every norwegian born is "automatically" considered a christian, because of this law, and it doesnt even help to un-register your self from the church. as long as you dont register into a "human-ethical" (atheistic) organization, you'll still be counted by the church, as a member of christianity.
i am officially a christian, even though i am not on any list. they basically count me as a church-goer, simply cus i am not a member of neither a christian or an atheist organization

That's funny you should say that.

Recently I saw a church with symbols of both the cross and star of david. I never really asked but I guess it's a church for jews and christians.......

its the chrewish/jistian church :]

Next it'll be the Atheio/Chrewish/Jistian/Islamo church of Latter Day Saints...

No, sometimes even moderate people would care, especially the moderate muslims. They wouldn't care how much you practice your religion as long you believe in it but if you tell them that you don't even believe in god or prophet then they would be certainly offended.


Like that girl who was trying to obviously approaching me lately since invited me to lunch at her place twice (and another colleague girl sent me the 'message') ,she is very moderate muslim and she knows that I don't pray, I drink , I don't care if my meat meal is halal or not and I never bring religious subject into discussion ...that doesn't seem to bother her, yet she always keep asking me "do you think this person is muslim?", so she thinks that I am muslim too and that's what she cares about.

So I had to let it go since this relation would be a disaster because I can't keep hiding the fact that I don't believe in religion or god while I am with someone.

They might accept you as friend , but very few of them would consider you as a partner.