Facebook - any point for me?

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I can't listen to a conversation or go on a website without hearing that word. I do have a minimal page set up, but it has no activity going on, it is just the bare page you get for signing up.

I think I haven't done anything with it because... I'm afraid of it. Why?

-people looking at what you're doing in your life (or not doing)
-I don't really have any friends (that I would use that word anyway... a few acquaintances). WhilstI 'd love to have some friends, showing up on facebook with none is a pretty good sign of being a loser, just like in real life, right? Like how you point out you are looking for friends and get bumped out because you don't have any so a clearly a failure.
-I don't really do anything with my life. If I'm not at work I'm either doing my exercise/fitness work, playing on XboxLive or just contemplating nothing, watching my life waste away.
-I don't really like the past, and want no attachment to it, practical or not. I do not want to be 'found' by people I once knew, nor do I want them seeing my (no) friends quota or what I am doing in life.
-I hate myself physically and utterly detest photos... I hear those are pretty mandatory.

Are my fears justified? All I want is to meet new people who like the (few, shallow) things I do, who can show me new things, or just make my life a little bit worthwhile. Can facebook do that?

Help me please, I'm running out of ways to save my life. < /melodrama>

Oh Facebook, yes, it seems to be obligatory, and yet so many things about it are annoying. I'm no social behaviour guru, but one by one...

When I first joined Facebook I had the same attitude that you have. But since then I have found it be rather interesting.

No, I don't post any photos, or make daily comments concerning my status. Once I wrote something about that I went to work today and will do the same tomorrow. Recently someone on my friends list told everyone that he couldn't think of anything to say. I let him know if that is the case he should say nothing.

Other than all of that it's not bad. There are groups for Asperger's. I have included Alex Plank on my list of friends. Most of the people on my list are people that I worked with. I enjoy seeing all their photos from years ago.

There's also groups for games (I joined one for the Sims 3), public libraries, etc.

I also think it's a way of getting to know the people on your list a bit better without any direct contact. Just by reading their page you can find out more about their interests, and any recent activities. I think it's a great way of finding out that you might have more in common with someone than you think you do.

If you should decide you want to do it would you want to add me to your list? Hope that doesn't come across in the wrong way-like egotistical.

Good luck with your decision. Let us know what you decide. irene

I created a facebook page with great trepidation, worried mostly about privacy. I did it because I have tons of old family pictures and I wanted to share them with a scattered family. Also some old friends from 20 years ago.

I have it set to very private, unlike my MySpace page, which is open to everyone.

I did discover a "Camp Winape" group (a summer camp I went to in 1956 and 1957) and got it going with a bunch of pictures I had from those years.

There are lots of "applications," which I don't use, because I see no reasons to trust giving them access to my page. I don't send drinks to anyone, or any other similar stuff.

I will insert pins in my eyeballs before I ever join Facebook.

Web mistress-Thanks for the compliment.

Now that we are talking about Facebook-I have considered posting a general announcement that I am an Aspie. What does anyone think about that? I frequently do things without being able to determine the potential consequences.

I just enjoy reading the activities of NTs, what they feel is important to reveal to the world. Of course I'm still clueless as to why they write alot of things. But to me it could be compared to learning about another culture. Would something like Facebook work for only people with autism/Asperger's? Would people with the syndrome feel more comfortable?

See ya around.

irene

A friend has tried to recruit me to Facebook, but I haven't joined. For one thing, there are people out there from my past I don't want to find me, and want nothing to do with. Also, I wouldn't have much to post there either, since I don't live an exciting life. The most exciting thing that has happened to me is a couple of months ago my car got totalled an I was in pain for oever a month. I basically go to work, come home, play with my computer, which is dualbooted with Ubuntu and WinXP, or my ham radio.

My life isn't all that exciting, and I don't feel the need to advertise it to everyone.

I like facebook I found aload of people from junior school and they all look the same. Although the downside is when everyone showing pictures from nights out and partying and all the updates I put on there are youtube vids or something boring like "been on computer all day"

the worst thing is for every friend you add, there is a pop up notification when something happens to their profile. Nothing is so soul destroying as seeing other people posting to each other every 5 mins, and no one wants to say anything to you for 3 months, I get enough of that crap everytime I go outside thank you.

Hmm, interesting replies, thanks...

One 'don't do it' and a bunch of 'mehs' means... I guess I should hold off it for now and find another avenue to escape my loneliness and depression.

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Oh, right, nothing.

I think I now understand what I find troubling about everyone's negative comments on Facebook. It's a matter that it seems to me that those who do not like the site are comparing themselves to other people. People they suspect are NTs.

PrisonerSix-you said your life isn't exciting. It sounds as though you're happy. Just because these people communicate with one another is not an indication that they are any happier than you are. I know people here, lots of people, who spend their whole lives working, talking, drinking beer, and smoking.

Gliesen Antrho-if these people are posting messages every 5 minutes it sounds as though the only life they have is the internet.


You see my attitude about the whole thing is that I am not like most people, I am myself. I do not want to feel as though I have to hide away from this kind of thing because I am not capable of being like them. I am so tired of having to hide some of my Aspie traits that I just don't want to that any more. Maybe I have a "in your face" kind of attitude about this whole Facebook thing.

I just don't want to read that people are not joining this website because they feel as though they don't measure up to other people's standards. Since curse words are blocked out I won't tell you how I feel about that kind of attitude. If you find it necessary to know I could do a pm.

I really hope that none of this has offended anyone.

irene

Facebook is just like my address book - I only have people on it that I have met, or have met but was too drunk to remember. And I got into those scavenger hunt applications so I have some people that alway play them adding me. I taught a few of those people about AS because they suspect their sons had it.

If you're too afraid of having Facebook then don't. I sometimes wonder why I have a Myspace, Facebook, Bebo and Twitter account. I'm not really that social. I've actually joined a social Harry Potter site, which is better because you can get house points and talk to other crazy potter fans. A lot of people have HP pictures as their display pics too.