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Yeah well, for those who haven't read my other post my family is dragging me to disneyword, didn't want to go at all, I literally got on my knees and begged! Nope parents just don't care because it's there trip, so 3 hours of continuos meltdown crying and freakng out 4 hours of sleeping and then another 4 with two Xanax and three clonazpan, finally we arive I have come to the fact that my parents are more of a burden then they are helpfull, my dad is a loss cause he yells all the time, and my mom is to emotional and starts to use anger to express it, I'm done! Words cannot describe the khaos and fear, I have felt on this trip, and to make it even better, my parents don't even care, they may have the label 'parents' but that doesn't mean they are always going to be right, they haven't figured that out yet, and when I try to do even the smallest amount of help, I'm yelled at? I don't know what to feel right now, I really wouldn't even flinch if someone where to break the door down and hold a gun at my face, it's like living with strangers, their not all that smart, nor pacient and they have no planning skills what so ever. I'm really close to just not listening and doing thhings the easy way and smart way instead of " my way or the highway" crap! I don't care they can yell and they can punish me and take things away from me, I don't care any more, I've lost all taste for any thing, it's unhealthy and I'm going to bring this up to my doctor! I still have three more days of fear and hell, however I'm staying I'm the room I'll let them go yell at eachother, it's like living with 3 year oldes there so confident in there abilities that they dont relize there actually screwing up. What should I do?

Disneyworld/land is like heaven for preppies/NTs. It is the promised land for extroverts.

What is really so bad about the vacation? Perhaps you can just stay in the hotel and swim while they go mingle with Goofy. Who says you have to go be around all the screaming little preppy tweeny-boppers all day.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have no advice to give but...hope it turns into something positive.

Okay, I've pretty much been through the gamut of hellish family vacations, as a teenager and as an adult, so I have a pretty good idea of what you're going through.

My advice: Forgive them. No parent is perfect, never. Even though you can't see it or imagine it, even though they can't express it - they love you, and they are doing what they think is best.

I know this might not help much, but there it is. Get through it as best you can with the minimal amount of damage to yourself and others.

Use this as an impetus to look deep and learn. On a spiritual level their job is to love you imperfectly, and it sounds like they're doing a good job of it. Experiences like this make you stronger, and they help you become your own person.

Ask yourself this:


How are you contributing to the problem?

How can you change this for the better?

How can you communicate your needs clearly and kindly?

What are your needs?

Hang in there, stuff like this makes you a more interesting person later in life, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Well, I thank all of you for the replies, I actually can't stay in the hotel spmetes,y father forces me to go, and if I don't I loose the only bobbie I have my computer which in total is about $4,000, so I end up in a corner all the time. I love my parents, and they love me, but they are making all the wrong moves, and I can't even explain to them why it's wrong; because they beleive that there always right. I am beging to become non-verble with them, I gave them both many chances, however they always ruin them by yelling at me or threatning to take this, that, or the other away from me. I'm finding them to act as though a 5 commmunist ( if you know what I mean ). The problem I face is I'm 15, but with my independce part of the mind I'm about 3 years behind, so I need someone of statute to live with, until about 21 or so I'm screwed. I do have a question why is it so difficult for parents to make one desicion, it might just be mine, but they make plans and they follow through with them, and in the end they're no more then " headless chicken running around, confused, and lost", why can't they think clearly?

BlueMike gave you a lot of wisdom. Please don't dismiss him.

What you both have said is true, and is the first course of action I would take, but I have tried so many different things to show them how I feel. I continue with a smile on my face, but I'm not going to wait any longer, 15 years is plenty of time to atleast know when a person dosent want to do something, not to mention the fact I'm there son!?! I'm pulling to much for me to handle, I have a meltdown every time I'm around them with in about 10-15 mins, that is not supposed to happen. They are being very stubburn, they will not change, conform, or even mend to my social issues; my gathers quote of how to deal with a problem " Just deal with it! " ..... WTF, he has PTSD so when I get in any panic modes that are extreme he tells me how I have it easy and about what he has seen over "there", ok I understand that what he did/saw should never occur in a lifetime, but that doesn't mean
I'm being dramatic, I don't think he even cares any more, he has tried to build a bond many times, however they end the same all 40 of them; him yelling at me for nothing Mom is very emotional and she doesn't deserve to have all of this thrown at her, I have asked other members of my family if I could come out, but they all have things that there doing, and would mess up their lives, which is not my intent, I feel broken now and it sucks. I have no freinds, I have tried to make some, but I'm to odd I guess, I don't have anyone to talk to any more, no outs, no loop holes! I'm really getting close to just not communicating any more maybe after a cople of months they might notice something different. That would be a huge suprise, I don't mean to be dramatic, but this is the only way I know of how to show emotional details. I'm having to deal with slot right now and I don't know how to react of handle it, I won't eatuch any more, I only drink water, I stay speechless unless spoken to for an anwser; I'm lost I don't even know what to ask?