I guess I ought to do that too -- I have a way of just jumping into the pool without testing the water
Tracy, an NT mother of 2 and 1 step. Went through many very difficult years with my now 18yo son, across a spectrum of various diagnoses, behavior and educational traumas, through many schools, etc. Among the possibilities were AS -- many many similarities but he never developed an intense interest, and was fairly charismatic, socially ... or able to be when he wanted to (good with adults and younger kids, but not peers).
Went through the ringer with meds, etc. It was pretty horrible for both him and me (though I don't think he'd believe that). The man I love has clear AS signs too, and I've gotten alot of help here about how to understand and interact with him.
I think this is a wonderful community.