Aspie girl seeks aspie guy

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How do I go about finding a guy who will make me happy?
I found an aspie guy who I thought was right but he only kept telling me how many things he didnt like about me and wanted me to change.
I'd like to think he's not representative of the male aspie population!
Besides aspie affection, does anyone know of anywhere else?

afraid not no
although i'm an aspie guy
erm. do i look foolish yet?

In real life its not difficult to find Aspie guys in all honesty. What do you do in real life now? What exactly do you want from a relationship from an Aspie guy? If you are at university, there is quite a choice really of spectrumites...

Depends. What do I have to do to keep you happy?

The guy doesn't fit a prizing discription. No he isn't representative of all Aspie males, because plenty of norm men and women act shallow and selfish as well.

I'm sorry, but there are no shortcuts on this one . NO guy is 'representative of all X-type guys'. People are different even within subgroups and you have to pray to whatever powers you believe in that you find one whose defects you can accept and who can accept your defects. In the end, beauty fades but the rest is forever!

Keep trying and don't get dissuaded. And it's my personal recommendation that (if you find youself doing this) you don't limit yourself to 'only aspie guys' or 'only white guys' or even 'only Americans'. You're so young; get as much livin' in as you can! The more you experience, the more you will figure out what you really need to make yourself feel complete.

And in the end, if you find what you need is being somewhat alone even THAT is okay as long as you are okay with it. Nobody can tell you how to live.

(um, after I just told you how to live, that is... )

If you were closer then I would take you up on your offer.

try a sex addicts annonymous meeting. you'll never BELEIVE who you'll find there

aw, you've all made really kind replies. Thanks everyone

LOL Doncostello!

VipiraAspis- you're right about trying not to limit myself. I don't know.. I have this image in my mind that aspie guys would be kind and gentle.. and I could relate to them for the reasons that are obvious.
I like the idea that with aspies, we say what we mean. I like honestly. Ok sometimes that honesty is brutal (as with said boy..) but I'd feel uncomfortable being in a relationship with a guy who didn't want to speak his mind.

Kangoogle- what you said sounds quite promising. I'm not at uni yet. Going in September.. I really do hope to find someone there. I totally see VipiraAspis's point though about trying not to limit myself. I don't know... I feel with an aspie guy, there could be something more special (is that grammatically correct ) there.
I felt really really comfortable talking to this guy... it just sucks he was so shallow

Keeping a girl happy is easy. One simple sentence, "I have chocolate" For some reason, it doesn't work for me

Very wise.

oo any guy who offers chocolate is sure to get my attention!

Easiest target is basically societies with Aspie guys in, but none of them are out. Obvious ones include Computer societies, geek societies, bridge / chess clubs and some of the more political societies (especially the right wing / debating societies)

There are plenty of guys on the autistic spectrum who have a bit more of a clue about staying within acceptable boundaries, especially through cautiousness, attentiveness and experience. That said, if you want someone who is good with empathy you may have some trouble. Also, there are many men who don't have AS who may fit your profile so I don't think you should limit yourself.

As for ways to meet men with AS aside from Aspie Affection of course you have this forum, and also you might be able to find support groups in your country. However, going to the support groups with the sole intention of meeting a guy is a bad idea. Just in case you'd have any other reason to want to attend... (Though on average a girl would be a lot more likely to come away with a boyfriend than a guy would seeking a girlfriend)

I think the key thing here is that they don't have diagnosed AS, rather than not have AS per se. Obviously anyone sane would realise that discussing AS with most of them is a very very bad idea.

Anyone using Aspie Affection is just desperate tbh.

I hate those kinds of threads....

That's my personal impression on that kind of threads:

A 'guy seeking a girl' thread ==> made by an extremely desperate guy.

A girl seeking a guy thread ==> made by an attention seeker

In some cases it's the other way around.

Maybe what I am saying here is stereotyping , maybe it's sexist (or most probably not politically correct ) ...but it's most likely true.